(Closed) Rant! Cleaning…

posted 4 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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3760 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@bridgetdarling:  My FI grew up in a messy house, I grew up in a clean house. It’s been a challenge to get him on my level but he’s getting there!! He throws his dirty clothes by the cellar door because that’s where the laundry is, instead of putting it in the basket upstairs. I only had to ask him four times to STOP DOING THAT. He’s finally learning that the living space is not an extension of the bedroom lol. Socks everywhere, shoes everywhere. He’s definitely making progress though. 

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 2013 - Harbourfront Grand Hall

@bridgetdarling:  Men cannot clean, I would have zero faith asking DH to do what you asked your FI to do.

 

He always says the little pee dribble/splashes around the bowl aren’t from him…. ok well then who are they from?!?  The roomate we don’t have, the guests that haven’t been over since last time I cleaned?  *RAGE*

Post # 5
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3583 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2013

Yes, FI’s idea of cleaning the bathroom is to wipe off the sink and empty the trash…that’s it.  He also thinks that if he washes dishes (we don’t have a dishwasher), then he gets credit for cleaning the kitchen. SMH!

 

Post # 6
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4416 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Haha DH once cleaned the toilet with the brush but without any of the disinfectant toilet cleaner stuff. I kind of … lost it. I screamed at him, and I believe the phrases “shit brush” and “shit germs” were used several times. I apologized afterwards, and I’m not too proud of it, but I CAN say that he has always used the disinfectant since then 🙂

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@bridgetdarling:  haha my husband cannot clean. Period. I do all the cleaning because if it were left up to him, I would be living in the most disgusting house ever! 

Post # 8
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346 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

Ugh. I think a lot of men don’t know how to clean because, as kids, they were never taught to recognize what “unclean” looked like (whereas moms often complain to their daughters, in my experience, about the state of their own homes, or friends’ homes). And very few of them were required to help with the cleaning! Hopefully this will change over the next few generations.

In the meantime, here’s my solution: $60 every other week for a full apartment cleaning from the local “eco-green” lady. I say $60, but what I really mean is “priceless.”

Seriously, if we both cleaned in the same way, or both had the same standards for cleanliness, that would be one thing. But barring that celestial alignment of stars, I refuse to be the one who does most or all of the cleaning. Sooo… $120 a month for perfect future marital harmony! So what if it means we have to skip a few nights out at a restaurant? I count it a great deal!

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2010

My husband was in charge of bathrooms while cleaning, he didn’t like it.  His compromise was to pay for a cleaning person twice a month.  Love it! 

Post # 10
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10368 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2010

“Men cannot clean”

Seriously? We’re writing off an entire gender here?

My DH works from home and does 90% of the cleaning, and does a damn fine job – without me ever asking or nagging. Giving men a free pass just because they are men is super unfair. And, as my husband points out, really offensive to the men who actually bother to pull their weight.

Post # 11
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

I typically don’t put FI in charge of much outside of vacuuming. When I ask him to clean the bathroom he swirls the brush around the toilet without wiping off the rest of the toilet. He doesn’t see the need to mop or clean the bath tub. According to him the tub just gets cleaned every time we shower… I do most of the cleaning but he does most of the cooking so it pretty much balances out.

Post # 12
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2376 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2009

This is where I’m lucky.  DH was in the military, so even though some bees insist guys don’t clean, my guy will get at things with a toothbrush to make things sparkle….which is going to come in very handy since we’re moving and have to leave our current home 110% perfectly clean.

Post # 13
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580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

I must be one of the ‘lucky’ ones. My FI cleans about as much as I do (AND does a great job!!!!!!) We’ve only had one ‘fight’ over the pantry. He went grocery shopping and just threw everything in the pantry. I went to grab something out and shit started flying everywhere. I was SO pissed. I am completely ANAL and it should’ve been put away nicely. Ever since that fight, he practically alphabetizes the groceries. Hey, whatever it takes 😉

Post # 14
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3266 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@jny1179:  Funny, since I grew up in a messy house and he grew up in a clean house… yet he can’t clean on my level. I can’t stand mess. I moved out of my parents house 6 years ago. I don’t want to my place to resemble that one! Haha.

Post # 16
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526 posts
Busy bee

@iarebridezilla:  stop it! you made me laugh out loud at my desk with your comments! too funny.

@bridgetdarling:  OMG, at least he will admit that the outside needs cleaning, DH doesn’t believe he drips. So I bleach the hell out of the bathroom and he complains about the smell, one day he will figure out the cycle…but i like the smell of bleach, its clean!

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