(Closed) Rant: 'Commenting to follow'

posted 7 years ago in Weddingbee
Post # 62
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@iarebridezilla:  this is what happens for me too. i hate getting emails every time someone comments and finally figured out the options are reversed.

 

i think most people don’t know that you don’t have to comment to follow the thread.

Post # 64
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2515 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

@lovelyMsValentine:  but the point is you don’t have to make a comment to follow the thread. you can just click “subscribe” at the top of the thread and then you’re following it. no need to write “commenting to follow”.

Post # 65
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1751 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I “commented to follow” the particular post OP is talking about. I had never heard of someone doing that, and when I was going through all the posts, I saw people saying it so I thought it was just a “thing” bees did. I eventually commented again and gave more advice, hugs, etc. I do see why it could be considered rude, so at least now I know how to subscribe to a thread 🙂 I didn’t mean it in a rude way, at all! I just had nothing to say at the time that other bees hadn’t already said.

Post # 66
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2606 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2009

@lovelyMsValentine:  If you don’t see the difference between “commenting to follow” and “I’m sorry you’re going through this,” how about trying “I don’t have anything to add that hasn’t already been said, but just want to let you know I am thinking about you.”

Or, again, just click “subscribe” or “add to favorites” if you have nothing to add but want to follow the thread or are hoping for an update.

“Commenting to follow” is rude and annoying.

Post # 67
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I personally haven’t done it but I don’t have a problem with it if other people do it.. and I have noticed that a lot of people will write “commenting to follow – I hope all works out” or something along those lines..

ETA: Did anyone stop to think that the people “commenting to follow” did not know how to “subscribe to a post” and now may feel like horrible people because everyone is calling them rude? As I said I have never done it but I also did not know how to subsrcibe until reading this post… 

Post # 68
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207 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

I did it before I learned about the subscribe button. BUT…I only did it on lighthearted posts (like the one with the lady whose fiance’s finger was a size 17 and we all wanted her to post a pic of his hand, or the lady who found the unknown stone in her bathroom). I think it would be super rude to do it on an emotional post. It’s like “I’m commenting so I can watch your life unravel. Brb.”

Post # 69
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1796 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

@Mimoza:  +1. I clicked on this thread to point out that it irks me because that’s exactly what the favorite button is for!

Post # 70
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73 posts
Worker bee

Thank you for this! I’m new here and could not figure out why everyone kept commenting that when you can just subscribe?! Especially with the post in question. Not the kind of support she was probably looking for. 

Post # 71
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3101 posts
Sugar bee

@FauxBoho:  I’ve never seen it as rude, but just plain weird.  I really don’t understand it.  There are definitely threads that I want to “follow” without commenting, so I just open it up in its own little tab and then refresh when I’m ready to read.  What is exactly the point of “commenting to follow”?

Post # 72
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70 posts
Worker bee

I’m pretty certain I know exactly what thread you are talking about! I noticed in the 10+ paged thread earlier today that there were so many of those comments. I wondered why people just couldn’t say, “Sorry you are dealing with this”, “Hugs”, etc…

Post # 73
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80 posts
Worker bee

@FauxBoho:  I haven’t seen ‘commenting to follow’ in a thread where the OP is emotional or asking for help, but I’ve seen it in threads where someone asks an interesting question and at first no one knows the answer (but everyone is curious). lol I find that as annoying as ‘me too’, ‘me three’ kind of posts.

@memo: lmao

Post # 74
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561 posts
Busy bee

@FauxBoho:  OMG I think I always misinterpreted this “commenting to follow” business!

I thought it was shorthand for “[my] commenting [is going] to follow” aka “I will comment on this later*, OP, I have some good advice for you, stay tuned.” Lol, how wrong I was!

*presumably because it’s a workday/the poster is busy at the moment and the person doesn’t have time to write a long comment until later.

 

@Brickette:  See I just don’t understand why the “commenting to follow” is necessary at all. Now that I know what it really means, I do think it’s rude when someone has posted about her personal situation on the boards.

 

@ceebree:  I agree with you 100%. I think it’s weird (and rude when it’s on a personal situation thread). I just don’t get it at all. I do the exact same thing as you (open in a tab and refresh when I want to read/see updates).

 

@lovelyMsValentine:  I agree that not everyone is getting their satisfaction from another’s misfortune, but I do think that “commenting to follow” posts are useless and add no value.

The thing with posts that say “Sending you hugs, you’ll make it” or “OP I feel for you” or “I’m sorry that you’re going through this” is that they actually add value even if the person doesn’t say anything significant. They provide some sort of empathy and emotional support to the OP. Providing support is just as important if not more important than solving someone’s issue.

You might not value support from people you’ve never met who are on an internet forum, but that doesn’t mean that other people don’t. A lot of the posters who post about personal situations specifically thank the community for providing support through tough times.

Does that make more sense now?

 

Post # 75
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687 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

@goodasitgets:  The first and only time I have seen this happen was in the particular thread that OP is talking about and it didn’t bother me at all, I am not up on all the WB lingo so I just assumed it was something that people did.. I took it to mean that either the people saying “commenting to follow” had no advice to give (or were going to say the same thing as a PP) and they just wanted to see how the issue progressed. 

Post # 76
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1367 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

I did not think anything of it until you pointed out! I’ve never done it before, I just used the favorite button.

 

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