Post # 1
- Wedding: Commander's Mansion
Hi brides! I need some serious advice. I’ve been trying to just get through this wedding process and focus on the good things but its becoming really difficult. My fiancee has been laid off his job and we have to move on top of an already stressful life event. We haven’t received a lot of support from our families. I’m pretty sure my Maid/Matron of Honor is doing everything herself with little help from other bridesmaids, and I’m basically doing everything myself. I know, I know… this is what every bride complains over. I just need to rant! Why do weddings bring out the worst in people?! My grandmother recently told me not to expect too much from her, that she’s not planning on dressing up, and I’ve heard from several people through the family grape vine that she’s telling everyone our wedding is going suck and being horrible and she doesn’t even want to go… My fiancees mom doesn’t seem to keen on the idea either… she is trying to be just like a bridesmaid instead of realizing she’s the MOG and you know… its kind of a big deal when your only son gets married… I have an aunt who acts like its the saddest thing on the planet that I’m getting married, and my mom can’t get her head out of her you-know-what and think about anyone else. OH! And then I’ve got my fiancees cousins who decided to plan their wedding 3 weeks after ours, so we’ve had to coordinate everything with their dates, bridal showers, bachelor parties, family stuff, etc. UGHHHH
I’m starting to think getting married is seriously overrated and I feel like I don’t know what I’m doing… I’m a bottle of nerves and ready to just call it a f*cking day and go to town hall. Does anyone else get like this? I just want to know that I’m not alone in this madness….
Post # 2
drummgurl: I went through almost the same situation. We were doing everything all by ourselves. We paid for it ourselves. As for my Maid/Matron of Honor, yeah, the bridesmaids helped her but they offered to help me too. They had to took alot of the DIY projects that I was supposed to create away from us. They created the party favors and paid for them. They helped out tons and they probably would’ve helped more if I had included them in the process sooner. Yeah I feel your pain about planning your wedding around other people’s dates. A college bud was supposed to get married a month before my wedding but she and her parents decided that two weeks before my wedding was even better.
Then another college bud got married three weeks before me and couldn’t attend. Then the RSVPs kept changing right up until the last minute. Some people who had RSVP’d didn’t even show up. Then the reception didn’t go as planned, but we muddled through.
I understand feeling like getting married/wedding planning is overrated. Believe me it is! No one is an expert when planning their wedding. They have to research and just remember it’s never going to be completely perfect. I had to start coming to terms with that the night before our wedding. I can’t tell you how many times I felt like calling it a day. But I tried to stick with it and keep going. In the end, it was nice and now I’m just glad it’s over. I think the marriage is actually going to be more fun than the wedding planning. In the mean time, take a breather and ask for help. Call your Maid/Matron of Honor and vent. I can’t tell you how many times I did that during the last two weeks. The thing with the moms will works it’s self out in one way or another. Everything will come together.
Just remember you’re not alone in this madness. If you need to vent, that’s what these boards are for.