Post # 1
Last night, I got together with a few friends from college. Little did I know that the purpose of this get together was for my former college roommate to announce her engagement to her close friends before posting her updated status on Facebook!!!
I was ecstatic when my friend announced her engagement and of course am completely enthralled with all things wedding/engagement related (or else I probably wouldn’t be on the bee, right?! Lol. :))! Most of us were like little giddy girls, excited to hear the news. We inquired about the details of the proposal and oooohh-ed and aahhhhh-ed over her gorgeously sparkly new e-ring!
One girl, who arrived a bit late, looked at her ring and said, “It’s too big on your hand. Didn’t he get it sized?”. . .”Is it dirty or is that an inclusion? I think your ring has a flaw!. . .Oh. . .wait. . .no. . .it’s just dirty. . . .You really should have it cleaned.”
My friend politely explained that her Fiance didn’t know her exact ring sized, and the jeweler suggested that they wait to size it.
I WAS FLABERGASTED that someone could be so critical of a FRIEND’S ring!!!
First, the ring is new (has only been worn for about 4-5 days!). It is NOT dirty!!! I realize that some rings can appear dirty rather quickly, but this was not the case. Her ring is also eye-clean. There are no visible inclusions anywhere, and even if there was a big black inclusion the size of Texas up front and center, why would someone make that comment?!?!?! The look on my friend’s face said it all. She appeared both shocked and embarassed. My heart sank.
I swear. . .some people are just plain RUDE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Post # 3
Jealousy can be a very ugly thing… and hopefully this girl will NOT be receiving an invite to be a bridesmaid.
Post # 4
This girl sounds like she has a really mean case of jealousy.
Some people are just way too caught up in their own world to ever be happy for anyone else or be able to see someone else happy without bringing them down.
Hopefully your friend was able to realize that the comment was out of jealousy and had no reflection on her or her Fiance but was just a reflection of this girls true character.
Post # 5
- Wedding: March 2012 - Father's Vineyard Church/ A Touch of Class Banquet Center
I agree with the ladies who already commented. It really sounds like this girl was just really jealous and neated to suck the happiness out of your friend. It’s really sad that she felt the need to do that to a friend just to make herself feel better. You tell your friend not to let it get to her and that her ring is beautiful and your friend is ugly (on the inside).
Post # 6
I definitely agree that this girl is a bit jealous! Only a jealous and materialistic person could make such comments.
It just makes me upset that someone could be so rude to my friend.
Post # 7
OMG! That’s absolutely crushing. Poor girl. Did anyone call her out for her comment? Was it awkward afterwards?
I almost had a slip up like that once. My roommate was the 1st girl I knew that got engaged and while I had congratulated ppl online and over the phone I had never done it in person. She showed me the ring and for whatever reason my brain froze, I couldn’t think, I couldn’t speak, I knew I had to say something and all I could squeak out was “He did a good job.” I felt like a huge ass. And I was genuinely happy for her. No jealousy, nothing. Genuine joy for her. But I couldn’t express a thing, and then when I did I screwed it up. Sigh… 🙂
Post # 8
@claireos: I think “He did a good job” is actually kinda sweet — and shows a recognition that this was a big step for her groom too! In short…don’t beat yourself up. 🙂
Post # 9
I was always taught jealousy is a form of flattery, I hope she was able to just brush it off?
Post # 10
That is just wrong 🙁 I feel so bad for your friend and hope she didn’t let it get to her. Some people have no tact.
Post # 11
I mean… Im just going to say it… BITCH!! I feel bad for the guy who will eventually marry that girl!
Post # 12
My god… just awful! Some people just are so rude! Seriously, I cannot imagine saying that to ANYONE!
Post # 13
she should have told that friend that green isnt really a good colour on her..
Post # 15
Some people just have no tact.
Post # 16
@CanadianMermaid: HA! I liked that response.
The “friend” definitely sounds jealous, but geez. Even if I were jealous of someone, I still can’t imagine saying something so rude!
I get, like, tears-in-my-eyes, over-the-top jealous sometimes when I hear friends are pregnant or get to see their new baby, but I still manage to cheerfully go on and on about how cute they are and ask all the right questions!! Sometimes you just gotta put on a giant smile and count your OWN blessings.