(Closed) Rant: Friends…but you only see them at weddings, baby showers, etc.

posted 4 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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12629 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

With your wedding being over a year away, I would just shy away from the guest list question all together.  It’s rude to demand an invitation like they are, but you could just cut it off by saying, “well, we haven’t even started a guest list!”

Post # 4
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1193 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@ScreenName:  I think some people just enjoy weddings, honestly.  My sister had a lot of “Friends” like that at her wedding.  I mean, she never socializes with these people, but they invited her to theirs so she felt obligated.  

I also think that we all have fairweather friends, the ones who are our friends when things are going well and happy (weddings, babies, etc) but are nowhere to be found when things get hard or even just ho hum.  

Personally, I’d go against the large wedding, too.  But that’s a personal preference.  I’ve always found smaller weddings to be more fun.

Post # 6
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113 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

We are having a very intimate wedding and ran into the same thing…we have a good bit of family and only about 25 friends are invited…making a total of 50! I explained as politely as I could that we wanted something very small and intimate and that we didn’t want to go into our marriage in debt. We are paying ourselves and we scaled down the list to people we have at least had contact with in the last year! That isn’t too much to ask and you find out who your friends are really fast…we also went by who responded to dinner invites, etc. Not who showed up at the latest party. Good luck, stick to your guns. In the end…the day is about you and your FI and what you want. 😉

Post # 7
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710 posts
Busy bee

Sounds like these are acquaintances, not friends.

No need to indulge their little fits. It’s not your lot to feel bad about wanting something intimate no matter the reason, and it’s not your job to make them feel better if their events were not similarly intimate.

Post # 8
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92 posts
Worker bee
  • Wedding: February 2011

My husband and i had no friends just our parents and siblings. It was perfect and not overwhelming. Plus its about you not everyone one else. Web cam it if they want to attend.

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