Post # 1
I am really beating myself up. I am the heaviest person in my wedding. All 4 of my bridesmaids wear a smaller size than me. 2 of them ordered their dress in a 2! My Lazaro wedding dress is a 14 and I have rolls of fat hanging out.
To make it worse, I am in a wedding in February and had to order a Dessy BM dress. I had to order a 12 in that dress. I am also the heaviest person in HER wedidng. The woman in the store said “you might need pay more for a larger size”.
I’ve lost 60lbs since my heaviest, I work out 10 hours a week and have a clean diet. I just can’t do this anymore and still be the heaviest person in BOTH weddings. It is all that I think about. I really don’t want to be a fat bride or bridesmaid.
Post # 3
Just remember you are your own worst critic. I doubt it’s as bad as you think. As a woman who is quite a bit bigger than you, I would KILL to be in a size 12 dress.
Post # 4
My wedding dress was a size 18. I looked hot, back fat and all. Hubs picked me, he only had eyes for me. No one is going to say anything to a bride on her wedding day other than “you look gorgeous!” And most of them sounded geniune. 🙂
Post # 5
Hun, a size 12/14 is not huge at all. I agree with another PP that said we are our own worst critic. Keep your chin up. You’ve accomplished a great weight loss.
Post # 6
I’m the heaviest woman in my wedding. I was close to being the heaviest in the last wedding I was in as well. It really sucks when you think about it, so I sympathize (and I try not to do it too much). But you just have to remind yourself that you’re doing everything you can to be healthy, and try to let it go so that you can fully enjoy yourself and be in the moment.
I felt like a stuffed sausage in the bridesmaid dress I wore in May. But the only thing I REALLY remember from that wedding is what a total blast I had on the dance floor and how happy my friend was. At some point you have to decide what to focus on and let the rest go, or you can’t be happy.
Post # 7
Look at how far you have come, 60 lbs!!!! That’s more than a lot of people can say, be proud of what you have accomplished!
Don’t give up, I saw you state that you can’t do this anymore. There are so many advantages to losing weight in regards to your health..not just the wedding! Besides, when you lose the rest of it from your dedication you will be glad you didn’t quit because you may be in another wedding later!
Post # 8
What is your actual size cause if its a 14 girl I would love to be a 14. I am a full figured gal and my wedding dress was a size 18. One thing i never liked long wedding dresses for me cause I am a plus size and to me i looked bigger in one so my dress was short in the front well fitted and long train in the back. Everyone thought i had lost weight and the compliments are still coming. My bridesmaids and Maid/Matron of Honor ran from a size 2 to a size 10. Did I care um no cause i felt good and lovely. Cared less who didnt like it. So its probably not as bad as you are putting it. Relax and remember we are all great and beautiful no matter what size we are.
@Lyndzo: Girl who you telling lol!!!
Post # 9
@almostmrsj: Love your comment. My hubby thought my booty looked great in my dress lol
Post # 10
The bride always looks the most stunning, regardless of size. Happiness is radiant. With your beautiful gown, selected to show off your assets, hair, make-up, and the man of your dreams by your side… when you look in the mirror, all you will see is hotness.
Post # 11
I’m a size 18. My Maid/Matron of Honor is a size 0 and my Bridesmaids are size 4 & 8 and you know what? I will be the most fabulous looking of the bunch. Sorry, but beauty has nothing to do with size. I applaud you for taking care of your health and your sucessful weight loss and that’s very important. But at the end of the day you have to realize that life is way too short to beat yourself over the way you look because someone, somewhere, someday has decided that thin equals beautiful and society has adopted that thinking. You could spend a lifetime wishing you had another body, or you can accept and love the one you have and just enjoy being who you are.
Post # 12
I get it. I wore a 10/12 for most of my life when my sister is a 0 slim. I get where you’re coming from, but you have to know you’re your own worst critic. All you can do is what you’re doing – eat well, exercise, and keep at it! (I’m proof it works… I did that, and now wear a 4/6)
You will be a beautiful bride AND bridesmaid!
Post # 13
I agree that the bride will always be the most stunning in the room! That means you!
Just wondering if you ever considering a run-walk training program that Runner Jeff Galloway started? I started running because of a friend of mine. She looked amazing and I asked her what she was doing. It was running. It’s changed my body shape and brought tone and most importantly, confidence.
I started by running half a block and then walking a half. Now I’m doing half marathons and am a size 4/6.
Post # 14
I will also be the heaviest person in my wedding, but I am not worried about it, for a few reasons. First of all, I’ll be the BRIDE. I know it is rough thinking about being the fattest or something along those lines, but look at the day-of sticky thread on the Dress boards to remember what a big difference that makes. Every last bride there looks radiant in a way that no one else can even hold a candle to!
Secondly, I know I will have a fantastic dress on, and it sounds like you will too! I LOVE Lazaros, and I’m sure the construction and fabric will FAR outshine your BM’s dresses.
Third, like PPs said, my fiance picked ME. He thinks I am beautiful at any size, and I am sure your fiance does too. Plus, you’ve made a MAJOR accomplishment with your 60 lb weight loss (so impressive!), and I bet the ONLY thing ppl will be thinking is how SKINNY you are, and the word fat won’t be corssing their mind at all!
Post # 15
I was there too, the heaviest, tallest (by nearly a head), and most definitely the largest size gown ordered from the bunch (my dress was a 12 and had a panel added in the back for my back and chest since I’m broad). It’s tricky at times not to dwell on it, but think ofall the reasons why you picked your dress for you! Focus on those when you need a pick me up…
I’m stressing over upcoming dress (already paid for) arriving soon for a January wedding I’m a bm in? Again, biggest girl in the group by far. The sample size of the chosen dress was only an 8 (seriously bridal shops, seriously?), so I knew there was no way in hell I could get it on. They put me in a similar style dress (empire waist with rouching on the chest and a sweetheart neckline), so being chesty (38dd) and the only girl with boobs, they wanted to be sure to order a dress with enough coverage for the girls… I ended up with a surprise “extra material surcharge” for the size they had to order (a 20! When i fit in a 12 from the waist down…). The other girls (a 2, 6, 6) saw how upset I was and immediately focused on my positive: I had enough chest to worry about!
Point beingwe everyone has their own insecurities about their body. Find your securities, and focus on the positive instead of dwelling on the negative…
Post # 16
A bridal size 14 is NOT large at all-especially given that the average is about a 14 (depending on the designer).
You are going to be absolutely stunning! Don’t beat yourself up!
You do also have a lot of time-my bet is you could go down up to another size if you keep up what you’re doing-losing 60 pounds is amazing, and you should be giving yourself a pat on the back!