Post # 1
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Sugar bee
I hate waiting…
I hate everything about it. It is the bane of my existence.
I want a fall wedding with all the pretty colors around us. I want a short engagement. Those two things are slowly but surely slipping away. I hate Ohio. I hate its bipolar weather. I hate hearing that my brother is moving his date for the umpteenth time to this fall- you know, the same fall wedding that I want with the pretty colors? I can’t get married at the same time as them! My SO’s brother is getting married in the spring so that’s also out if he were to propose. Summer would never happen at this rate- thanks to Ohio being so crappy and everyone cramming weddings in then. I hate that Ohio doesn’t have reliable snow- that’s pretty. I hate that the snow that we could have is in the snow belt and that there is NOTHING around there. Literally- nothing but country with a bad drive to find a decent hotel or get home. Totally unsafe. I hate being a moron thinking ‘what if the world ends in December like the Mayans say and I never got to marry my love??’ I know I sound like a total goofball for thinking that. I hate wondering if he ever actually will propose.
I hate the way waiting makes me feel, act, think, exist….
I feel a bit better now after getting that out there. Feel free to tease me about how dumb I sound..
Post # 3
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Helper bee
Have you spoken to your SO about what date you’d like for the wedding? Does he know about all these things that are floating around in your head?
Post # 4
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Blushing bee
I totally feel ya! Sorry I don’t have real advice, but just know you are not the only one!
Post # 5
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Blushing bee
awww… not gonna lie, I totally worry about the December Mayan world end thing too… I told SO this once after we had been out drinking and he said “if the world were to end tomorrow, I’d marry you today!” lol.
Post # 6
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Bumble bee
You don’t sound dumb and I’ve thought every last thing you have written down numerous times. Not to mention the Mayan calendar thing, I’ve told my SO already that I want a hotel room for that week in central America (I live on a small island on the coast) I didn’t tell him I had hoped during that time if we are not engaged at the least that I am hoping for one of the spontaneous last minute wedding things like getting married in Vegas. I’m even debating on buying the ring I want this month so that can’t be his excuse any more. As much as I LOATHE waiting (and he knows this, every birthday he gives me my present a month ahead of time because neither of us like to wait, for Christmas he usually holds off till about a week before Christmas and gives me my gift), it’s kinda part of the game I think. Part of the fun. It can be at least. Getting all the ideas in your head, sneaking out to try on wedding rings, or even better sneaking out to try on wedding dresses (something I’m dieing to do soon lol)hours spent endlessly drooling over wedding rings and planning details. I’ve even written out the guest list and had to cut quite a bit out of the list. We’re not engaged yet lol.
It stinks, especially if you’re like me and patience is not your strongest quality. Maybe look for the fun in it? And I’m with you on the fall wedding. That’s my hopes. Fall wedding sunset, white Christmas lights decorating the guests seats and such, just before sunset walking down the isle with the beautiful water view (on an island remember lol) I’ve got every detail planned, now just waiting on his small detail of when he proposes lol. It’s part of being a woman. Enjoy it 🙂
Post # 7
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Sugar bee
@treacle: Yes…My [younger] brother just announced a 3rd date change yesterday (to marry the girl he’s been dating half as long as me and my SO- don’t get me wrong I love this girl to pieces its just still a shock). I was napping with my SO after work and kept dreaming about it and how upset I was that fall was slipping away. I told him when I woke up about the change because I couldn’t remember if I told him or not. He was silent. He knows it bothers me and that I want fall. As I’ve posted before, he wants a new job first.
@butterflylove: @juneebee: Glad to know I’m not alone lol Esp on the ridiculous Mayan thing!
Post # 8
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Helper bee
Take a deep breath. Focus on all of the great things you do have in your life – a relationship, friends, family. Maybe you won’t get married this fall. But you could get married in the fall of 2013. Or spring of 2013. Either way, the most important thing is that you’re with the man you love.
Post # 9
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Helper bee
this should be more of a ‘i hate ohio’ thread lol. my fiance once made a joke that we would marry december 31st 2012. to a waiting woman, marriage jokes can turn you red with anger.
so stupid me has had the thought as well, that ill end up dying a ‘single’ woman, eh atleast i wont die a virgin 😡
waiting is the pits, i wouldnt wish it on my worst enemy, it leaves you vulnerable and clueless as to when or if it ever will happen, even with many heart to heart talks with your Mr. under your belt about timelines.
no matter how much cliche advice is given to ‘find a hobby’ nothing can distract you entirely from the thought that youre still waiting, so i feel your pain. hope your wait isnt too long.
i often used to have this hollywood idea that a man will have this light switch turn on in his head and he would give you this magical proposal on his own without any conversations or timelines, after read this reading this board i see thats not always the case.
some women are lucky enough to have that and not be stuck in limbo and then theres US lol the waiting bees. i guess we got the ‘broken ones’ or clueless ones. hopefully your guy has his light switch moment and proposes soon. good luck.
Post # 10
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Helper bee
You do not sound dumb at all. TRUST me my SO is SO worried about the end of the world thing (he got a “the end is near” tattoo) We have talked about it before haha and i told him i would be SO mad if the world ended cause i wouldnt be able to get married to him. he laughs at me but i feel your pain. I hope you feel better!
Post # 11
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Helper bee
…for the record, guys, that Mayan thing is all hype. i mean, apart from the obvious about people constantly worrying about the end of the world, the Mayans didn’t even think the world was going to end then. it’s just that their long count calendar is ending…which, the Mayans had a LOT of calendars. the long count was mostly to put the rest of the calandars into perspective so that people knew when which ruler made what. here’s a video talking a little about it, if you’re interested: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=KjKUqQ2uSzg&list=UUZYTClx2T1of7BRZ86-8fow&index=4&feature=plcp
the waiting…on the other hand, i have no advice for. i’m in the same situation. at least we can find solidarity in that! :c
Post # 12
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Sugar bee
@pinkgreenandyellow: I tried looking at dresses to pass time. Didn’t help when one that I looooved was not on the website anymore….owell. And rings…oh rings…He told me I could look. I went looking and then he got mad that I went looking! Grrrrrrr
@txbella: Ohio ruins everything lmao. Two days ago it snowed. Now we have 50 degrees and raining! Its nuts
I’m glad I found the bee and that there are other women out there who are going through and are having some of the same feelings and thoughts as me. Its something to take comfort in =)
Post # 13
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Helper bee
@laceywings: yeah i know its all hype, think Y2K. but it still doesnt stop people from thinking in the back of their mind “its possible” theyve predicted many of things that came true, even if it was just a calendar ending it still makes wonder, but then the rational part of me comes back and thinks ‘fat chance’
Post # 14
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Blushing bee
@jpalm13: I couldn’t agree more – waiting sucks. At least you’re not alone waiting and there are bees to listen to your rants 🙂
Post # 15
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Bumble bee
waiting does suck! I’m itching to plan and get the date and start my life with SO but can’t because there’s no ring on my finger yet! Ugh I feel your pain
Post # 16
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Bumble bee
Ahh don’t i know this. Waiting sucks! It turnes the sweetest girl into a crazy one LOL – I am one too.
Don’t have much advice as I am trying to figure this thing out myself but this website and all other bees are so friendly and this mey be just what will get us through this !