(Closed) (Rant) I think I’m going insane.

posted 6 years ago in Waiting
Post # 3
1414 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Been there…..

It is so hard—-but this is what I did; tell your boyfriend exactly how you feel(just like you did here) and then let it GO. He obviously want to surprise you somehow. Let him do it!

Deep breaths!

Best of luck!

Post # 4
662 posts
Busy bee

@Britk:  If you are going to marry a Marine you better get used to planning your life around the unsure military schedule.  There are a lot of things to consider here.  Yes you cannot live on base with him unless you are his wife but because he will be an officer he can get BAH and live in off post housing with you.  That means the military gives him money and he can find an apartment or house with that money.  The military will shuffle you both all over and you’ll likely spend a lot more time away from each other than the typical couple. 

I’m not saying this to be snarky, I’m saying this from experience.  Once you find “the one” there is nothing but time.  You’ll be together forever so there is no need to rush to get married.  What I mean to say is, maybe you don’t need to rush the wedding simply to get it done before he leaves for the Marine Corps. Or maybe so you don’t feel so rushed or stressed you can start planning the smaller things or collecting the supplies for DIY projects now.  If you KNOW you are getting married to him then it should be perfectly okay to start working on plans before he proposes.  I just worry a little bit that you are going to be so stressed trying to push together plans as quickly as possible. 


I spent 6 years in the Army and my SO was a Marine (long before we met) so I say this from the bottom of my heart: We cannot do our jobs without someone at home supporting us.  You’ll hate life sometimes when he is away but stay strong because you supporting him at home is what keeps him going.  Thank you for taking up the torch as a Military Spouse.  It’s not easy, but I thank you for your sacrifice 🙂

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