(Closed) Rant: If I send a follow-up email, have the courtesy to respond!

posted 7 years ago in Career
Post # 2
47430 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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LadyBlackheart: It would be nice if they had responded after your first email, but depending on the number of candidates they interviewed, I wouldn’t expect it.

Honestly, if I were the employer and received another email from you 6 weeks later, I would think you were a bit odd and would just delete your email. It’s obvious by now that you are not the successful applicant and it looks like you are reprimanding them for their lack of courtesy.

Post # 3
11517 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: May 2014

This frustrates me as well – if you’ve made up your mind, or even if you haven’t – just tell me.


Post # 4
1648 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2000

I totally understand your frusteration, and in an ideal world, yes it’d be nice to get a response either way.  However, sending 3 follow up emails asking for a response is not a good reflection on your character and unfortunately, might work against you. 

Post # 5
4697 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: September 2014

I understand being frustrated.. for maybe 2 seconds. Definitely not long enough to harass them a month later, which reflects poorly on you.

You should put your energy into controlling the things you actually can, not other people’s behavior. Sending a follow-up email may be ‘nice’ but in the real world following up with every single person who interviews for a part-time job isn’t feasible.

Post # 6
982 posts
Busy bee

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LadyBlackheart:  I understand your frustration – this happened to me a few times. I actually got to the interview stage, then heard nothing at all. I actually had a job trial at one and didn’t hear a single thing from them afterwards. I understand they must get a lot of applicants for jobs, but I’m sure they don’t interview every single person that applies, so it shouldn’t be a big deal to get in touch with those they did interview to let them know the outcome! One job I interviewed for, they said they would call the successful applicant by 6pm the following night…at least with that, if you didn’t get a call you know you didn’t get it.

I will say this though – one of the places I never heard back from was a motel. A couple of years later it was knocked down and a sports store built in its place. I went for a job interview there. A couple of years later, that store went under and shut down. Makes me realise that things happen for a reason!

Post # 8
3208 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I know it would be nice to receive a response, but you can’t control other people’s behaviour (unfortunately!). Personally, I wouldn’t have sent yet another follow up six weeks after the interview. The point of the follow up is to show your interest and check on progress. If they’re not replying to you, it’s obvious that they chose another candidate.

Post # 9
225 posts
Helper bee

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LadyBlackheart:  I find this really annoying and rude too.  Most recently I talked with this lady who was soooo excited about me and said something very similar to “send me an email with more information about _____ and re-attach your resume, I have the PERFECT job for you”.

Never heard back from her after the email I sent with the extra info she wanted.

Post # 10
2375 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

I know it’s frustrating – it’s not like they can’t copy/paste the same generic email to each person. But I’ve noticed it’s very rare to receive a ‘thanks, but no thanks’ email. I guess common courtesy is just too time consuming for some people.

Post # 11
60 posts
Worker bee

HR might not know what management plans to do/did. Even if they’re one in the same.

Post # 12
2490 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2018

I totally get it – I think it’s rude when you take the time to interview (and often that involves taking time off from work), and you don’t even get a courtesy call or email to let you know if you were not successful. I’m in HR and it always amazes me how the recruiters/coordinators will be upset if a candidate doesn’t call back right away or can’t come in exactly when they want, but they rarely give them a second thought once they decide they’re going with someone else.

Having said that, sending a second follow up email is not a smart move! If you were a decent candidate, there is a good chance that they kept your info on file for the next time a role becomes available. That second follow up will most likely get your information thrown in the trash and there’s a good chance they will remember you if you apply again. Sorry.


Post # 13
4234 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

I totally understand your frustration. After I graduated college I probably went on close to twenty interviews, all ending with “we’ll let you know when we’ve made a decision”, only to never hear anything. I always followed up because I’m the type of person that would prefer someone to treat me more like a person and less like a number during an interview process, so I always made sure to follow up a week or two following the interview. I would get the standard response that they went with someone else, but in my mind, it forced them to at least acknowledge my time and effort during the interview process. It’s frustrating because I took the time and effort to come out for the interview (yes I know I needed the job, but there were times I would have to skip class when still in college or go into my part-time job late), I would spend a few days preparing for the interview, I would put my best effort forward and then the place that I interviewed with couldn’t even be bothered to inform me they chose a different candidate. It definitely made me look at the company differently and it’s a touch disrespectful, in my opinion. Obviously if they are interviewing hundreds of candidates it is not always possible to send back a response, but I’ve received generic letters/emails telling me I didn’t receive the position, so I know it’s possible.

Now that I am an office manager and run my own office, whenever we hold interviews, I always make a point to respond within forty-eight hours with our decision and inform the candidate that they didn’t receive the position. But in my case, I have the time to do so. We only interview about ten people at a time, so I can write out ten emails and get them sent out fairly quickly. If I was interviewing a hundred people it would be different. I do believe employers should make an effort to let you know that you were not selected. Even if it’s a boilerplate email where they simply insert your name into the blanks. 

Post # 14
1228 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2014

Don’t burn your bridges by writing more than 1 follow-up e-mail/phone call!  I was once offered a job 4-5 months after I interviewed.  I know a friend who didn’t get the job, but the original candidate didn’t work out so she ended up getting a job offer several months later.  

Managers go on vacation, funding gets delayed, everything is attuned to your employer’s schedule, not yours.  You don’t have any negotiating power until they offer you a job. This is how the game is played and it won’t change any time soon.           

Post # 15
13094 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: July 2010

While I wouldn’t have sent another email 6 weeks after the fact, I can totally understand you frustrations.  This was one of the things I hated most about job hunting.  In my opinion, it is just common courtesy if someone takes the time to interview for a position to let them know the outcome (even if that is a simple form email letting them know they didn’t get the job).  Never replying anything to someone you interviewed is just rude, IMO.

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