(Closed) Rant!! I'm so done with my sister in law!!

posted 5 years ago in Family
Post # 16
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Bumble bee

He is better off without her. He is young and has his whole life ahead of him. It is better he concentrates on the navy and his kids and find himself a stable decent women to make a life with some day. Unfortunately he will always have to deal with her because they share children together but I really think your brother needs couseling. To heal from this and be in a better place so that he never makes these same mistakes again by dealing with someone so unstable. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee

MrsFiveOh:  They will need a paternity test to determine if baby no 2 is not his child. Most states have a statute of limitations for filing to remove oneself if you suspect you may not be the bio father.

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Post # 19
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Bumble bee

MrsPPP:  I work with domestic relations and child welfare. if someone is married he is considered the father regardless of paternity. Children can have more than one legal father with parental rights. The law is weird. 

Post # 21
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Helper bee

MrsFiveOh: They may be PRESUMED the father initially, but a DNA test and court filing can fix that. That’s my point. He doesn’t have to be the father, legally, if he does the right paperwork.

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

MrsPPP:  I think the concern was that he wouldn’t be able to keep the children because it may not be his?? I don’t understand the point of what youre saying- why would he want a test to prove he’s not the father even though he wants the children? Also, presumptive father is a legal term not a verb. If, for example, parental rights were going to be terminated on the parents and you had a father who was not on the birth certificate but was married to mom and a father who’d been paternity tested as the biological father then rights would have to be terminated on BOTH fathers. Because both have legal rights. I hope that makes sense to you. 

also this is completely off topic for the post. 

Post # 22
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Bumble bee

MrsPPP:  I typed a response but it didbt post for whatever reason and I’m not going to re type my post explaining what presumptive father means (legal term, not a verb FYI). You clearly dont understand the law when it comes to parental rights, but it doesn’t really matter as the comversatin is off topic for the OP. Your post makes no sense because I believe the issue is that he may not be the father but would like to keep the children. He would have no reason to get a test done to prove he’s not the father.

Post # 23
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Helper bee

MrsFiveOh:  I work in law, and spent three years as a family law paralegal. I do understand it, actually – I’m no whiz, but I’ve personally done this type of paperwork, and read these statutes.

A husband may be the assumed father, or presumptive father, BUT, if he is NOT THE BIOLOGICAL father, and establishes this, he can be removed from the birth cert and have parental rights and obligations terminated in nearly every state.

Most states havea statute requiring this type of filing to occur within a specific time frame that the ex husband knew, or should have known, that he was not the biological father.

Sorry, you’re wrong.

Also, presumptive is used in legal terminology, but it is not a legal term. It’s a plain old word meaning information gathered in the absence of other information. The presumptive father is…presumed to be the father. I didn’t emphasize it to correct your usage, but to highlight the fact that the man is the assumed, perhaps not actual, father.

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Post # 24
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Bumble bee

MrsPPP:  k. Like I said, I currently do this type of work but whatever. Nothing you’re saying has anything to do with this post since he wants rights/ to have the children.

Post # 25
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

my SIL is like this but worse believe it or not. When my brother was off in Iraq she even got pregnant. She’s had five kids (or maybe four idk but only two from my brother, the others were someone else’s while he was deployed/in training after the first two) and doesn’t have custody of one now. She’s a real piece of work.

 

they sound the same to me and if they are if I were you I would stay out of it. Those kinds of women aren’t afraid to put the kids in the middle and you and your family will have trouble seeing those children without a court order.

so for now until the divorce is final at least, be there for your brother but stay out of it and don’t say anything to her. Trust me, it only makes things worse. Besides nothing you could tell her would change who she is so telling her off would only benefit you temporarily, until she gets pissed and refuses to let you see her kids and takes it out on your brother and his rights to the kids as well.

Post # 27
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Helper bee

MrsFiveOh:  Loud noises. Still wrong. Extra letters and last words. Disavowal of paternity is still very much a thing, and I would recommend anyone who is unsure find out, because it can cause major problems.

 

 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: December 2017

I personally think they need their heads banging together.

It does all sound very stressful. I hope they grow up soon OP.

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