- 4 years ago
- Wedding: October 2015
FH and I met on the east coast and we’ve been living together for more than one year in an apartment shared with one other roommate. FH is originally from the west coast, with his mother and sister lives Seattle.
This year around August, FH mentioned that his sister might be visiting soon, saying that she doesn’t know when exactly. 3 weeks afterwards on a September Tuesday, he told me his sister and her boyfriend will be visiting us that Saturday, staying 8 days with us…
I had no idea that they will be staying 8 days… we have a very small apartment and both of us have busy full time jobs. I was disgruntled about having so little notice but didn’t express my feelings other than a “Oh really? for so long? I thought it’s just going to be one weekend! *raised eyebrows*”. I went to work to make sure they have a nice visit, and I think they did.
I am in the venue searching stage and plan to book the venue before the end of this year. Since FH is leaving for a good chunk of December, we do not have much time. I have most of our weekends booked up and I tell him about Open Houses and Appointments as soon as I receive them, so far he agreed to go to all of them with me.
So, knowing that we have the entire Saturday booked to the brim, he said that his sister and her boyfriend are to visit us again this weekend. They originally are visiting DC but decided to re-route to Boston and wanted to crash at my place. They’ll get here Friday.
I am more visibly annoyed this time (seething on the inside) because I am super busy booking up our weekends, I am expecting venues to respond to my requests to tour on Sunday, now I might have to stay and entertain the guests or bring them with me to meet with venue reps
(I am not THAT familar with my sister in law and her boyfriend to want to bring them to open houses and appointments….I see that as potentially very awkward)
I told my FH that I have NO PROBLEM have his sister over but i just want a bit of advance notice. I feel like he/his family assumes that our time is always wide open for them without any consideration for my own feelings.
To be honest, this weekend is just not ideal for me. I am stressed out trying to talk to many venues at once, emailing approved caterers for certain venues and my apartment is a mess…. just the thought that I have to entertain guests make me feel ill.
My FH responded “You don’t get to decide on everything” and left it at that. This is very upsetting to me
I do plan to tal k to him again about this but I’m wondering what you guys would do in my situation.
Sorry about the long rant…I just needed a place to vent.