(Closed) Rant: Last nights Glee – Gay hatred (also, spoiler alert!)

posted 7 years ago in LGBTQ
Post # 3
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I don’t watch Glee but I totally agree with you. Who is anyone to judge what someone else’s lifestyle is? I don’t understand why people care so much about something that doesnt affect them.

Post # 5
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: May 2011

I totally saw the grandmother’s reaction coming and it still made me really sad that people really do react that way. Did you find it a little disturbing that the Glee club decided to make Santana come out that week and be totally ok with it? I just thought it was really inconsiderate to be like “Hey I sang you a song, now tell your entire family and be out and proud!”

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2011

I totally give props to Glee for this episode. At first I was perturbed because of the whole “I told my parents and they were totally fine with it!” comment and I thought it was just a sugarcoated cop-out on the writer’s part. I was like – This is not usually how it goes in real life! But the grandmother scene was way more realistic, and I’m glad they showed both reactions to really highlight how hard it is for someone to come out.

ETA: Did anyone else for a split second think that the grandmother was going to say that was her ‘secret’, too? I still wonder if maybe that’s an upcoming storyline with her – she got so angry because she had to hide it for her entire life as well, have a family, live a heterosexual lifestyle because she felt she “had” to live a lie. I dunno! I just got that feeling for a minute…

Post # 7
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: April 2012

@LGenz:  I think she was forced to come out b/c of the commericial, from one of that gurs running against Sue, that was already going to out her anyway.  So I think they were trying to lessen the blow for her.  

I thought the moment with her grandma was poignant but I think Ryan Murphy et al, actually sugar coated the whole experience a bit much, but I understand you can’t go too dark for television and it was important to keep it light.  I mean there kids living in turmoil and not everyone is gonna have parents like Santana and Kurt or friends like Glee club members who will shelter them and make it ok.  

As an aside, I commend Finn for standing by her.  Santana’s pain is no excuse for her to treat people the way she does.  I would have knocked her the eff out a long time ago, lol

Also, what the heck happened to Blaine?  He is so corny now and his hair looks stupid.  He was wayyyy more cool and sauve when he was at Dalton.  It must have been the uniform.

Post # 8
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

@MrsMaine: OMG I totally thought the grandma was going to say it’s her secret too!!!

It is very sad that this is how a lot of people react to this situation.

Post # 9
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

@MrsMaine: I wondered that too! hmmm….

I was lucky in that when I came out no one was surprised. I’d been out to my Mom as bi for 8 years, so she wasn’t shocked, and she was SO supportive because she said she could hear how in love I was by the tone of my voice! 

I was shy to tell my Dad because we have a rockier past. However, he was fine with it- although upset at the fact that I had thought he would have an issue with it. Damned if you do, damned if you don’t, hey?

My partner, on the other hand, had her familt totally turn their backs on her for two years. Dad asked for her house kay back, and although they didn’t cut off contact, they were stand-offish and uncomfortable around her for a long time. they never liked her previous partner, and were very vocal about that fact.

Luckily, by the time I came around, they were over it and their relationships were repaired, and I made a great first impression I guess because we all like each other. Of course, we live on opposite sides of the country so we don’t get to spend much time together anyway.

getting back to Glee, I thought it was a good episode, and raised some great issues. Even with Puck saying to Quinn that he felt bad how much attention and support Santana was getting to help her through this when Quinn didn’t get much help with the group when she was going through her pregnancy. It’s a weird, wacky show so anything goes. Now Rachel’s in real trouble for the first time, oh my!

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

I actually think that the Glee episode was amazing. It was real, and it was true.  Santana told everyone how her parents were accepting, and that they were “okay with it all”.  We all saw what happened with her Abeulta. 

I think it was a real episode.  The fact of the matter is that when you come out, there will be someone who doesn’t agree with it.  That is just the world we live in – and Glee was putting out an accurate portrayal of that, in my opinion.  This episode showed what it really is like coming out.  

I would have been a lot more upset if they didn’t show this – talk to any gay person who has come out.  Every single person I know (including myself…) has got a negative reaction/rejection from at least one family member or friend.  Sucks, but it is a reality of coming out for most people. 

Post # 11
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: February 2013

I haven’t seen the episode yet (I watch everything on Hulu), but I’m not surprised about her grandmother’s reaction. The woman called Santana “garbage face” for years! And although she framed it as a joke for her and Finn’s little “face off,” you could tell that there was pain there.

Poor girl. I love her character.

Post # 12
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@LGenz: They weren’t trying to make her come out, they were trying to show their support because it was coming out in a painfully public way. Seriously, if my former friends had sung a song to me instead of banishing me to Siberia, it would have made me a little happier.

@RayRayFurious: I also thought this was the woman who had tried to sell her–

 

My partner and I both have very different coming out stories. Her’s was one of acceptance and nurturing (having a gay dad will do that) and mine was public and mortifying–the silver lining being a mostly accepting family who after three years have now completely come around. True story–we were at my Mom’s house this weekend and she’s in the process of toy hunting for Christmas for our toddler niece. She was checking out and someone commented on the fact she bought two brides instead of a bride/groom and her reply was, “Don’t you know, every wedding has two brides.” LOVE HER!

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

just yesterday I heard a story about a woman who is in class with my partner, who decided it was time to come out to her Mom before the holidays, since she wants to bring her partner of two years (her Mother has been in denial that they are just really good friends..)

Basically her Mom told her that she’d be “dead in her grave before she ever accepted that lifestyle” and she has now “poisoned the family” by not keeping her perverted secret to herself. She was very hurt and angry, especially since her Mom is also saying it’s a terrible, evil thing to have her young 4 year old daughter exposed to.

And it’s 2011 and we live in the most liberal part of Canada! yikes.

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