Post # 1
So I jut got really upset at work.
A little back ground I am a small girl 115 lbs and 5′ tall. And I have a size 6.5 finger. I am not flashy, in the least. And, because I didnt grow up with money and I am not used to it I dont like to spend money. Some people may call my cheap but I just dont see the point in spending full price on somthing that I can get on sale.
Well my SO proposed on the 20th he knew what I liked and got the perfect ring for me. While he could have afforded somthing “bigger and better” he didnt because he knew I would have been upset. And I was almost upset at how much the ring was worth till he told me he got it on sale!
My ring is a 3 stone 14k white gold ring with accent diamonds. Each stone is 1/3 carat. the TCW is 1.25. they are also higher color and calarty. And it appraised for $2800
Well one of my female Coworkers got engaged last night and they picked out a 3 Carat princess solitare with a diamond encrusted band. The thing is HUGE. I was really happy for her and said grats and went on about my day. Well a little bit later one of the guys comes over to talk to her about it and says “Hey lets compare rings and see who’s is better, oh wait thats kinda mean Ibblets ring is tiny”
WHAT THE ACTUAL FU%*.
Really just because it makes my stomcah turn to think about spending 10k on a single peice of jewlery or the fact that I would never wear something so damn gaudy , that makes mine less.
It really upset me because it almost seemed like the guy was saying my FI couldnt afford better. Which he could I just didnt want him to.
IDk I love my ring but it still really hurt my feelings 🙁
Pictures of my Ring below ( shitty cell phone camera quality)
Post # 3
Your ring is so pretty and if it’s perfect for you that’s all that matters. At first I was thinking it was going to be the other girl that said the thing about comparing (I would’ve punched her…), but when I found out it was a GUY.. they are so freaking dumb sometimes. I hope you can just brush it off. Your ring is beautiful!
Post # 4
Ok dude your ring is boss
People are douches.
Hold your head up and know that your money will be used for something that is useful.
Those people can eat a d*ck.
Post # 5
People are absolutely ridiculous! I love your ring; it’s gorgeous, and it looks perfect on your hand.
I’ve always been like you; I personally couldn’t stand spending 10k on a ring, so mine will probably be more conservative as well. There’s nothing wrong with that; the important thing is loving the ring you have. That’s really all there is to it.
Post # 6
Your ring is absolutely beautiful and sparkles like crazy! I love it.
Some people are just assholes and he is clearly one of them! I’m sorry you have to deal with people like that.
ETA: Even if that was the most that your fiance could afford, it still doesn’t give anyone the right to make rude comments about it.
Post # 7
1) she’s a stupid person.
2) she’s a bitch.
3) i hope her ring falls apart.
i LOVE the hearts in your setting! so sweet.
honestly, screw them. a 3ct solitaire is no better. it’s just bigger. doesn’t matter who’s is bigger or better.
do you love your ring? that’s what matters.
i get catty comments all the time. i have a 3-stone ring like yours, but my ring is around 0.25ctw for all the stones on my ring. i get the “he doesn’t love you, or he would have given you something bigger” and the “that’s too small to be an engagement ring” and the “wow, it’s so… tiny” comments all the time. what do i do? smile and say that the middle stone was his grandmother’s and how thrilled i am to have that heirloom. people shut up, or if they don’t, i walk away.
do the rude comments sting? mhm. but it’s never made me regret the decision on my ring. do i want something different someday? sure. i’d take an upgrade down the line. but i’d never ever give up this ring. i love it too much.
just smile and say that you love it. because if you love it, that’s what matters. people are materialistic. it’s a fact. don’t let them get you down.
Post # 8
I love these replies. 🙂
I think your ring is gorgeous. 🙂
Post # 9
Boys are stupid. Your ring is very pretty and actually NOT small at all. I hope your cw is careful on her commutes to and from work. I’d be scared to have a huge ring given my current commuting situation.
Like JNY said, do you like it? That’s all that matters.
Post # 10
Kudos to you for knowing what you want and sticking to it. We’re in a similar place with our attitude toward money. Just because you CAN spend it doesn’t mean you HAVE to. What sucks about your situation is it doesn’t even sound like the other girl was involved…it was your dick co-workers.
HOnestly, the only thing to do is feel your feelings and then move on. People will continuously make idiotic comments, it just feels different when it’s about something as special as your engagement ring.
I get it a lot about my plain band (no diamonds, just solid gold). I knew I always wanted a plain band and it’s exactly what I got. I can’t lie and say that it doesn’t make me momentarily doubt myself, but I know that we saved several thousand and that money is more important to me as we started our lives together.
Keep your head up and stick to your guns! You and FI are the only ones who matter!
Post # 11
@colorofmyheart: I think you missed that it was a guy and not the girl who said something to her about it being small.
Post # 12
Some people are just stupid. Your ring is fine. He needs to move on, shut his mouth and do his job and quit socializing.
Post # 13
Your ring is gorgeous and these people obviously have issues! You’re happy and that’s all that matters. The other guys who probably aren’t as happy and jealous can go where the sun don’t shine!
Post # 14
I don’t get it. If you didn’t want your FH to spend more, why would this idiot’s comment even bother you at all? You got exactly what you wanted.
Post # 15
@Ibblet: ….I’d walk over there and be all like, “You know, I LOVE comparing things….but before we do the ring thing…I think I’d like to see how your shlong measures up to the other dudes in the office…so let’s just all line up and whip em out…k? Points for manscaping and symmetry!….what…? You mean you don’t really want to do that…Oh, ok I get it….SHUT UP ABOUT MY RING THEN YOU EUNICH!
Post # 16
@colorofmyheart: It wasn’t the girl making comments…her male co-worker was. Men are clueless.