(Closed) RANT: Let's compare the rings and see who's is better.

posted 8 years ago in Emotional
Post # 49
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2013

@Ibblet:  yes ma’am!

 

Post # 50
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: December 2014

@Ibble For what it’s worth, I think your ring is very pretty, feminine, and just the perfect size. Some people are rude and classless. Comparing is useless because you and the other girl are two different people, with different tastes, and obviously different values. 

 

Congratulations on your engagement. Stuff like the situation you describe is crappy for sure, but keep trying to remember that marriages and life are marathons, not sprints. When that girl is entrenched in her married life 10 years down the road ( assuming she makes it) the last thing she’ll be thinking about is the size of her engagement ring. You won’t be thinking of it either.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

What a douche.

Post # 52
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

Wow, RUDE!  No one should ever say things like that.  I think your ring is really pretty, and I love the hearts in the setting!  I can totally understand being pissed off and upset by what they said, but in all honesty in the end your opinion (and your FI) are the only ones that matter!  People should really learn to mind their own business.  I think it’s better to be smart about how you’re spending your money.  

Post # 53
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2013

What the hell!? Of course your feelings were hurt, mine would have been too!

…And your ring IS NOT EVEN SMALL, it’s a carat???  That is not small and my circle is somewhat well off. (The comment would have been douchey, but in this case it’s also incorrect. Just sayin’.)

She probably felt super awkward too. I have a cousin who has a pretty big ring, and I can tell it makes her uncomfortable when people remark on the size… Hers is a 1.5ish carat yellow diamond in a halo with extra diamonds on the sides of the band. Probably over 2ctw. What I’m getting at is… 3 carats? THREE? That is twice the size of the biggest ring belonging to someone I know in real life. 

That guy sucks at life.

Post # 54
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

@Ibblet:  Your ring is gorgeous, this person is a nobody, end of story. 

When I first got engaged, everyone went “oooh can I see the ring” and then some people would be like “…ohh.” When I showed them it was a *small* *black* diamond. Like they were disappointed. IDGAF, I love it, that’s all that matters. Same deal in your case.

Post # 55
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

@Ibblet:  That would piss me off too.  

First of all, your ring is lovely and it sounds like it’s exactly what you wanted.  That’s the most important thing!

Secondly, I can’t believe someone would actually say those words.  Out loud.  To your face.  Yeah, guys can be kind of clueless about what’s okay and what’s not when dealing with things like this … But still.  He had to at least know that saying something like that was pretty rude.

As others have said, though, at least your female coworker wasn’t the one to say that.  She likely also felt at least a little uncomfortable about that comment.  

And hey, at least you have a bunch of people to vent to on the Bee.  Sometimes it helps to just let off some steam.  Smile

Post # 56
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

Your ring is beautiful. Your coworker is a brat. I sometimes wonder about these people. I feel as if she feels the need to insult your ring, her priorities are not straight. She seems more focused on the size, color, clarity and price and not the fact that the man of her dreams just proposed to her. 

I had a similar situation- I just got funny looks but nothing was said. i love my ring. It has a round center stone that is almost a carat plus a channel band. I got the funny looks from someone who has a fancy enormous princess cut diamond with lots of detail, diamond encrusted, etc. I also waited a decade, I never gave any pressure nor did I ever say what I wanted in a ring. She said a few times it needed to be princess cut. Plus, when she first starting dating him,  the first thing she told me was about the fancy car he drove. It seems like its more of a competition for her than the fact that she has a great guy in her life. 

i love my ring. And I love it more because of who gave it me and why. it took me a few days to even worry about the specifics of it because I was just so happy. If your coworker is so concerned with the details of her ring, I feel like she may be in it for the wrong reasons. 

Dont let her or anyone else get to you! Your ring is beautiful. And it is even more beautiful because he picked it especially for you. 

Post # 57
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

oh wait…. a guy said it? I would love to know his situation!!! 

But regardless, what I said is still true. It’s not a competition. 

Post # 58
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Buzzing bee

@Ibblet:  You should have said “i didn’t want to buy anything that big, its tacky.”

 

BIgger isn’t always better. And frankly I am of the same mindset. I never understood girls who needed 3ct rings when their hands are tiny as mine are. Freakin thing looks foolish.  To each their own though!

 

Congrats and enjoy your pretty ring 🙂

Post # 59
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Worker bee

What a moron. Let him think whatever he wants. What difference does it make? His ignorant comments don’t make your ring any less valuable.

Post # 60
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2013

Ok, now from the other side:

 

“I got engaged and my now fiance got me a ring i love. it’s 3 carats and while for some people it might be to big, i’ve always loved big stones. today a guy at work wanted to compare mine ring to my coworkers and then he laughed at her small ring. i felt really bad but i didn’t create this situation, and then she called my ring gaudy. why? i didn’t do anything to her. what does she care?”

Post # 61
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Seriously? What a douche! 🙁  Even if he was trying to be funny… it wasn’t… *hugs*

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