(Closed) RANT-maid of honor unfriended me on Facebook?!

posted 7 years ago in Emotional
Post # 106
Member
108 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: July 2014

That is so incredibly sad and inconsiderate. Just no consideration for your feelings whatsoever. Sorry to hear. 

Post # 107
Member
5304 posts
Bee Keeper

OP – is it possible she deliberately didn’t reply to you so you wouldn’t get closure? I’m the type of person who values straight talk in my relationships – like, if you have a problem with me tell me straight up so we can deal with it!- and those close to me know this. I hate when things are left open ended or unknown or swept under the carpet and not talked about. And unfortunately, I have had a few people use this against me when they’ve been upset or angry with me or no longer want to speak to me. They know perfectly well that doing The Fade or The Silent Treatment is the way to truly bother me, more so than telling me off. So is it possible she took perverse pleasure in leaving you hanging like that, dangling in the wind waiting for an answer from her? Her behaviour does seem either indifferent or punitive toward you because my first reaction in your position would be the same as yours, to worry that everything is okay with her, but obviously if she’s actively adding friends and liking others’ statuses on FB she’s allive and well, she just doesn’t want to interact with you. And if you’ve agreed to be someone’s Maid/Matron of Honor and you no longer can or no longer want to, the decent thing to do is to tell the bride asap. Even a terse one line message would be preferable to the not knowing and the waiting for responses, everything left up in the air- and likely she damn well knows this. And you say you made sure to ask about her school, her life etc, not just talk about your wedding. But even if you were going on about the wedding too much, a close friend or sister is able to give you the proverbial punch in the arm about it and say, half serious, half teasing “OMG would you shut up about the wedding for five freaking minutes?!?!” not cut you out of her life over it. I’m sorry OP, sometimes we don’t get closure. It sucks. It makes it harder to grieve the relationship because there are so many ‘why’s left unanswered. But it’s the unfortunate reality sometimes. (((((hugs))))))

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