Post # 1
I don’t believe in dictating things that someone else is paying for. I just want to go with the flow. They keep asking us what we want though, and whenever we give them suggestions they shoot them down anyway. Every time. “What do you want on the menu?” <give a simple suggestion> “No you can’t have that.”
“Tell us what kind of liquor you want”. <give a simple suggestion> “No you can’t have that”.
Fine Mom and Dad, get whatever you want, I won’t complain either way.
“Ok, we might get this. You call and make the arrangements.”
Mom, I’m not paying. They’re gonna want some kind of money. What do you want me to arrange?
“Just call and ask for suggestions”.
You said you decided on what you wanted. What do you want me to arrange?
“Go and see them and tell them what you want”.
Mom, you said I couldn’t have what I want. All they need from us is money. What do you want me to tell them?
“You don’t have to pay them. Just make arrangements”.
… And round and round we go…
Anyone else’s parents driving them nuts?
Post # 3
Yes yes yes yes YES. Future Mother-In-Law is doing this crap to me, to the point where I don’t feel like it’s MY wedding at all. I feel like it is HER production and her son and I are just two actors in it. I am at the point where I can’t even read her emails anymore.
Post # 4
I was set to be Maid/Matron of Honor in my cousin’s wedding a few months after I got engaged. I took my mom dress shopping with me for Maid/Matron of Honor dresses because I knew buying a wedding dress with her would stress me out. She found a dress for my wedding while were shopping. It was nice, but she wanted to but it in fire engine red. I had told her to get whatever color she wanted, not expecting to have a problem with any of them, but fire engine red? I was super stressed out about it. Then, the day of my cousins wedding my mom had a stroke- she died the dnext day. I would give anything to have my mom standing with me in a fire engine red dress. Just some perspective- be happy she’s there and helping you out.
Post # 5
Are we related? That’s like half the reason I quit the big wedding!