(Closed) Rant: mother pressured me into buying a cheap dress…now what?

posted 5 years ago in Dress
Post # 3
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2063 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 2012

You could sell it?

Or, if you like me, you could tell her you sold it.

Smile

Post # 4
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

I think the first thing to do is put up a photo (if you feel comfortable).

Honestly, the dress may not be as bad as you think and the Bees may have some suggestions on how to zazz it up with accessories etc.

Or….. if you reeeealllly hate the dress, is buying your own a possibility? It may hurt some feelings. But you deserve to feel amazing on the day.

Post # 5
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2450 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2012

buy your own dress for the ceremony and (since you said this was a party dress) use the current one as a reception dress.

Post # 6
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959 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@almorebe: So sorry to hear you are feeling this way about the dress. You should love the dress you will be wearing on your wedding day. If you already have the dress with you then have you considered selling it? There are many sites (including the WB) where you can sell you dress and help another bride out.

Also, if you are looking for an affordable dress that fits your style…check out preownedweddingdresses.com, recycledbride.com, oncewed.com and the WB classified section.

Post # 8
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2013

@almorebe:  I think you should do what you want for your wedding.  My mum was pressured into a dress and venue she didnt like and 38 years later is still not happy about it (I mean she doesnt dwell on it) but her opinions on her dress & venue havent changed.  As it isnt a financial burden to get another, I tihnk you should try to sell it and buy a dress you love.

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@almorebe: I really love the bodice. It doesn’t look bad on you but I think you can find a better dress which suits you and how you want to see yourself on your wedding day.

Do you have any style of dress or actual dress in mind?

Post # 12
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1071 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: July 2013

If you dont like the dress you should pay your mom back and buy your own dress.  That is the only way you will be able to get the dress you want

Post # 13
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: February 2012

Sometimes DB will let you exchange a dress for store credit– could you try that?

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2012

@almorebe: Oooo I love the Alfred Angelo’s Cinderella dress especially style 209. Perfect for a winter wedding! Also, VW’s white collection is beautiful. Def check out if you can make an exchange like Bookworm suggested.

Post # 16
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: January 2011

I think it is really pretty!! $250 for alterations sounds high to me though. I agree with PP about the store credit and then you could come up with the extra cash and get the dress you want.

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