- 5 years ago
- Wedding: May 2016
get ready for the rant that has been pent up since I began planning my wedding!
To give some background, my fiancee and I have been (formally) engaged for approx 9 months. His parents were never on board with us getting married young in the first place, but they have come to accept it, and are helping monetarily and have been involved in the planning process.
As I said, we are a young couple, still finishing college and getting started in jobs and therefore don’t have a ton of disposable income to spend on a large or extravagant wedding, furthermore, that is never what we wanted. We planned a small, non-traditional wedding at a garden near our hometown and wanted to celebrate with a small reception dinner at a local restaurant. When Future Mother-In-Law heard about this plan, she basically crushed it, saying that she didn’t want to be involved in our wedding if we weren’t having a formal reception. We agreed to having a reception as long as she pays for the food and alcohol, she agreed. She has also tried several times to convince us either to not get married now or of many different venues that are nothing like what we would want. I know she is just trying to be helpful but it has just been too much. She is being bossy, unbearable, and just completely overstepping the bounds of what we are comfortable with. The next antics she puts up are adding literally 90 people to our guest list, then pitching a fit when I tell her that we won’t be able to stick to the original food budget if these 90 more people are invited. Her solution: “just don’t order more food! when it’s gone, it’s gone, who cares if they’re hungry.”
She almost never directly addresses any of her issues with me (until recently), instead she goes through my fiancee and talks about how terrible my plans are and everything she doesn’t like about them. She always texts him saying “don’t you think the bridesmaid shoes are ugly?” “don’t you think you should choose another caterer?” etc.
My wedding is this upcoming Saturday. This entire past two weeks she has been texting me nonstop trying to figure out what to do about her daughter (our bridesmaid’s) dress. We decided to have BMs rent dresses through a website so they don’t have to buy. I reminded everyone in January to place their rental orders so they could get the sized they wanted. So you can imagine my surprise when TWO WEEKS before the wedding, Future Mother-In-Law texts me complaining about the website and how she can’t order what she wants or change her previous order. After several days of her complaining to me, I just ordered what she wanted myself, and then she complained that I had ordered it, that she’s “not made out of money”. All this leads up to today, her texting me asking when she needs to be there for pictures, after I’ve already given her an extremely in depth schedule. I tell her that she needs to be at the hotel for getting ready at 1 so she can get her hair and makeup done. As a gesture/gift to my mom and Future Mother-In-Law, I pre-booked a professional MUA and hair stylist who are driving several hours and have already been paid to come and do their hair and makeup. She says she wants to go home and get ready now (a 45 minute drive from the venue). I ask if she could get dressed in town at a relative’s house and she replies “NO!”. I just drop it, immediately she texts my fiancee saying she didn’t know they would have to be there so early, she doesn’t want to just sit around, I shouldn’t have booked H&MUAs, she is all pissed off.
I’m honestly at a loss of what to do. I just want to call her up and yell but obviously, I can’t. The wedding is four days away and I’m SO STRESSED, largely because of her. Anyone else have crazy Future Mother-In-Law or Mother-In-Law stories?? PLease share.