- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2013
I have something I wanted to vent about, something which only fellow brides-to-be would understand
I have a bridesmaid (we’ll call her K) and her sister is a professional wedding planner (we’ll call her E). I am friends with E on Facebook, but we have only met in person a few times, mostly because K and E have had a strained relationship in the past. E has always been bratty and always speaks her mind, even when it’s completely rude and uncalled for.
When I first got engaged a year ago, I thought “Great! Since I want K to be in my wedding, I’ll email E and see if she may want to plan the wedding.” I knew I would need at least a day-of coordinator, and things between her and K had gotten a little better. E is very good at her job and plans very beautiful weddings, and is very high-rated even though she is fairly new to the business. But she has a little bit of an ego and is very opinionated about what she thinks weddings should be like, which I see from Facebook posts. When I emailed her, she said (and I’m paraphrasing) that “I’d be happy to give you any advice you need, but I don’t agree to work with just any couple. I require a meeting with the couple in person to see if we’d be a good fit to work together. Only after that will I agree to plan the wedding.”
Let me first say that I completely understand where she was coming from…she had never met my fiance and it had been a few years since we’d seen each other, and I understand the need to meet with someone before making such a huge committment. But there was something about the tone of her email that completely turned me off, like I had to be “good enough” to be considered her client. Maybe I was being oversensitive, but I decided that I would not be seeking her advice and would hire a coordinator that actually acted liked my business was somewhat important to them. I just stopped communicating with her. I didn’t want to make a big fuss, so I haven’t even told K about it.
I’ve been making various posts on Facebook about wedding planning, not too often since I don’t want to be annoying. But she has commented on every. single. one, often implying that I don’t know what I’m talking about. Most recently I posted that I had seen chivari chairs up close after meeting with my caterer, and I couldn’t justify spending $7 a pop to rent because they weren’t really all that pretty in person. She commented something like “Well, there’s a lot that goes into rental prices, you have to hire staff to transport, pay bills to store them in a warehouse….but they look so pretty in pictures!” I didn’t say anything, but really? You don’t need to lecture me. I understand basic economics, but I’d rather make my mortgage payment than spend an obscene amount of money on chairs just because they “look prettier.”
She’s made similar comments implying that I don’t have a clue, and it’s stuff that I could read on wedding blogs, the Knot, or right here on WB. So at this point I’ve just stopped posting about my wedding on Facebook and have actually reduced the amount of time I spend on there altogether, which I highly recommend . I just wanted to post here and see if anyone else has dealt with people giving advice that they act like you’ve never heard before. Actually, I’m not sure why I posted this in “Emotional” since it’s a minor annoyance, but it seemed like the best fit.