(Closed) *RANT* People's "helpful" advice

posted 6 years ago in Emotional
Post # 3
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Ilovewine:  I think you’re on track with simply not posting that stuff on Facebook. The thing about the chairs is such a little detail I wonder why it’s even on Facebook??? She sounds like a know it all so it’s best to stop feeding her or block her from seeing your updates. But really, any update that details the cost of rental chairs is probably annoying to everyone!

Post # 4
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

hehehe…sounds like she is a bit pissed that you decided not to….

‘work with just any wedding co-ordinator’……..guess she doesn’t like to be treated the same way she treats other people!!!

I’d keep posting stuff on FB just to get a rise out of her…..post hideous wedding decor pictures and pretend you are seriously looking into using them for your wedding. Her comments and suggestions could provide a  comical antidote to wedding planning!!!

Post # 6
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3827 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: November 1999

@Ilovewine:  hehehe…your obviously way more mature than I am!!!

 

Post # 7
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3150 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2018

@Ilovewine:  someone just posted the details of her recent lab work so I’m not surprised by anything!!

Post # 8
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1848 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

I would just block her from certain statuses.

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

It sounds like you don’t really want her as your wedding planner. Don’t hire her and move her to acquaintance so that she doesn’t see your facebook posts.

Post # 11
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Newbee
  • Wedding: October 2013

My own opinion is to keep people around who are pleasant, fun, and supportive…it sounds like this lady doesn’t fall under any of those categories! She sounds snooty and even if she has the most wonderful taste in the universe it sounds like she will make you more stressed than needed. My advice would be hire someone who has taste, is well organized, and most of all is kind! There are so many killer ideas and creative pics on the internet you can take them to a planner and ask her to imitate.

Post # 12
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1606 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2013

Everytime I get an email that ticks me off – and I am thinking ‘What a BI%^&’ – I always try to step back and then reread it in a cheeful tone and see if its possible that they were trying to be nice but the tone was lost in the medium (email).

This does not apply with that message. She meant to some across as straightforward and potentially off-putting as she did.

Not sure why she would turn away potential business but it does sound like she it trying to establish dominance before even the first meeting or something — lol weird lady.

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: Central Park

@Ilovewine:  Go to her FB psge. See where it say that you’re friends? Hover over it and you can change her group from friends to acquaintances. Then go to your settings page and change your privacy so that only friends and not acquaintances can see your posts. Or you can change the setting on a particular post. Doesn’t work on the mobile app, only the website.

Post # 14
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845 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: February 2014

@Ilovewine:  Ah yes, I am going for the bulk flowers that mom is putting togther, Fiance is handling the calligraphy and I am making a few felt flowers for the bouquets too.

 

In relation to your situation though. I have a very very very very pushy and bossy Maid/Matron of Honor (interior designer). She can be sweet but she insists on things that I have said no to politely because clearly she thinks I am a little ‘slow’ or something. I am already paying for her and her +1 to stay the night before the wedding AND I have had to change my bridesmaids dresses to accomodate her. Also, she wants to take over Maid/Matron of Honor duties and it is getting on my nerves. Good luck with your ‘giver of helpful tips’ I can relate completely.

 

Oh and I have banned talk about my wedding on FB – I just won’t be respinding to the hundreds of people who’ll be butt-hurt because I can’t invite everyone in the whole world even if I wanted to. Weddings are expensive.

Post # 15
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: December 2013

I have NEVER posted anything about my engagement/wedding planning on FB, I think this thread is a good example why people should not do it. If you want to exchange ideas with someone use your regular e-mail address/text. FB drives me crazy sometimes because people say whatever they want and don’t filter out the disrespect and ill manners. Ugh.

Post # 16
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620 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: January 2015

Sounds like E is a bit full of herself. I wonder how many brides are tripping over themselves to hire this lady as their wedding planner.

Anyway, I would block her from seeing your updates, or just ignore her comments. Let her think she’s lecturing you or whatever, if that makes her feel better. Her opinions don’t really change anything.

 

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