(Closed) Rant: So upset with my IL’s. Not sure when or if I’ll ever get over it…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
580 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

Omg. There are not enough words in the English language for this. That is despicable.

Big hugs lady, chin up, they are all raging idiots.

Post # 4
1446 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

You are seriously handling this so much better than I would be. I would have probably gone off on all of them by now and probably be in jail for attempting to burn someone’s house down. I’m like half-kidding. Seriously though, this is insulting to you and they are only making the situation worse.

Post # 5
1093 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2012

Wow, that’s so bad. Your in-laws were way out of line. It’s sure that this is all steaming from concern for their son/brother, but they did not handle the situation well at all.

I’m so sorry to hear about your husband. It sounds like he’s lucky to have such a caring and selfless wife by his side.  🙂


Post # 6
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

The brother sounds like a jerk. Sorry you have to deal with him.

Maybe the mother is just worried about her son? I know that if it were me in the hospital, my mum would be all over finding out what I should be eating and telling Fiance and me all about it. She would be doing it because mothers go a little nuts when their children are sick. I would try not to take it personally. 

Post # 8
4327 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: January 1992

@UpstateCait:  First and foremost, his family needs to understand that your husband is 100% responsible for the shit he puts in his own mouth. Period. You have nothing to do with it. Period. You may do the grocery shopping, you may cook, but he’s doing the eating, and eating how much of whatever he is he is eating. So their grumpiness towards you is immediately illogical. 

Second, if they text you, you should ignore it. If they see they can’t get a response from either of you, the irritants will stop. I’m sorry they are being so obnoxious, especially after such a crappy day. Just take it one day at a time, and maybe turn your phone off for a few days to recover. No one needs to be harrassed.

Post # 11
1212 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

@UpstateCait:  It must be really annoying, I know. I think though that when you’re a mother, it’s hard to see your kid as grown up. That might explain the doctor’s appointment. 

Good luck with this!

Post # 12
2866 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2014

If they want to get on anyone about what your H eats then they need to get on HIM- you know the adult putting the food in his own mouth. Why does it fall to you? I don’t get that. Kudos to your H for being on your side and I hope they take 10 steps back. I’d be extremely upset too and my in laws getting in our business is one of the reasons I no longer speak to them. It sucks, but you aren’t alone! I hope they apologize to you guys once they calm the heck down. 

Post # 13
5096 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

I’m so sorry at everything you and your Darling Husband have been going through. I can’t imagine how stressful it all is. And I’m sorry your ILs are making it worse!!!

Post # 14
3776 posts
Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2004

@UpstateCait:  I feel like as a parent, I can understand her concern.  As a mother, we only want to do anything to help our children be better.  That being said, as a rational person, I know that overstepping and insulting the person my child is spending their life with is SO counter-productive.  I think you have to have a honest talk with Darling Husband so that he can be the one to explain to her that you both understand and are willing to impliment these changes.  If she is a decent, rational person, this will ease her mind.  As far as BIL, I would steer clear of him in order to keep myself out of jail.

I am so sorry that life is so craptacular right now.  Keep your chin up and best of luck with the new diet and the meddling family.

Post # 15
7609 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

Does it make you feel any better to know that your post made me smile quite a few times (at things like “bitch-o-gram” and “furious to the millionth power”)?  🙂

Beyond that, which undoubtedly does not make you feel any better, I’m sorry to hear what you’re dealing with.  His family should be on the same team as you, working to support you both right now.  Bah.

Post # 16
2084 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: August 1993

Sorry you’re going through this. Whilst I’d put their reactions and responses down to worry (And I totally agree that this was inappropriately put), I’m sure this is something you will, in time, be able to get past.

Things must be so overwhelming for you both right now; if you’re anything like me, when I’m on the edge, things cut more deeply than they otherwise would. Continue to focus on your Darling Husband, the regime will get easier when you fall into it as a routine. I’m sure that the In Laws will realise that they have crossed a line and when the dust has settled, you may all be able to have a chat about this. If they haven’t had any sort of problem with you this far, then I’m sure this is something which can be dealt with.

Best of luck!

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