Post # 1
A girl I’m not close to, but friendly with is throwing her engagement party the night of my wedding…problem is we share a significant amount of mutual friends!!! We live in a small community and I invited this girl and her now fiance to my wedding…even sent a STD five months ago….and she decides to throw her party on my wedding day, putting our mutual friends in a position to choose or leave my reception early to make it to her party!!!!
Sooooooo annoyed………end rant!!!!
Post # 3
What a brat! And I mean the other girl, not you! I think you have every right to be annoyed. Hopefully your true friends will see the difference in a wedding and an engagment party. A wedding is much more important. I would try not to let it get to you…easier said than done but take the high road and don’t stoop to her level. Trust me, the people who want to be there for your day will make sure they are there.
Post # 4
Well, I can’t blame you for being upset by the whole thing. I would be too. But please don’t let it ruin your big day/night. The people that care about you will be there and perhaps since you do live in a small community, people may be able to attend. I know it doesn’t make things better but I would hate for this to effect your special day.
Post # 5
I would be annoyed, particularly because she is invited to your wedding, so she obviously knows that a wedding is taking place. That’s not fair to your friends, and she put them in a bad position. But honestly, you sent a save the date five months ago, and a wedding is much more important than an engagement party. I’m sure most of your friends would rather be at your wedding.
Post # 6
Thanks ladies! Just wanted to make sure I wasn’t having Bitch Bride moment!!!
Post # 7
Wow! That’s incredibly rude on her part. You only get ONE day, and yours was clearly aleady planned.
However, call her up and see if it’s a mistake. She may not have realized the date she picked.
Post # 8
Have you talked to her? Maybe she didn’t know. Asking her to push it a week (or even a day) forwards or back isn’t that hard.
Post # 9
- Wedding: July 2012 - Baltimore Museum of Industry
Maybe they didn’t get their save the date? If they did, that’s pretty awful of her. Personally, I would *NEVER* leave someone’s wedding early for another party. I’d run it by her- “Hey, do you realize your party’s on our wedding night?”
Post # 10
I usually tell people they’re overreacting, but in this case I totally think you’re right to be annoyed!
Post # 11
Yes it’s annoying. However that being said I doubt most people will leave a wedding to go to an engagement party! She is setting her self up for failure and hurt feelings. Hopefully other friends speak to her or let her know they wouldn’t be able to make it if it is for that day.
Post # 12
- Wedding: April 2012 - Padua Hills Theater
Did she invite you to the engagement party? Or did you just find out through friends? If she invited you she might not have realized the date. If not then she knowa and she’s just a b-word. I would totally feel the same way as you. That is just wrong.
Post # 13
Considering she has gotten the STD for your wedding, I agree that I’d be annoyed. As a guest though, wedding CLEARLY trumps engagement party if I were a mutual friend. As a mutual friend I’d also tell the party thrower that she should have picked a better date. Maybe she just got sucked into her own planning and didn’t think about it?
Post # 14
@Mrs. Castle: No, I was not invited to her party. I heard through our mutual friends about it!
A part of me wants to confront her, but really whats done is done! I feel like I’ll be the one to come off catty if I say something to her!
Post # 15
- Wedding: August 2013 - Rocky Mountains USA
Yeah that’s total BS. Hopefully your friends will skip the party and stay for your whole reception – I know that’s what I’d do!
Post # 16
Maybe there was a reason she picked that date like her or her FI’s family being in town? She may actually be disappointed she had to do it on the same day.