Post # 1
We looked at ring 3-4 months ago I think it was. He said he had the mney to comfortably buy the ring I wanted then but wanted to save up a little more. I was fine with that. He talked about booking a vacation at the end of October for me and him to go away for a weekend whilemy son would visit his grandmother. I thought he was going to propose then. Well then he told me I had to choose the ring or the vacation. Of course I chose the ring. So then wewere in the mall one day and i suggested we go in the jewelry store to browse he told me NO! and he meant business. This kind of made me think he bought the ring already. Butttt the about a week ago we talked about it and he tells me with all the stress at work (he just got promoted to the big boss position) that he hasn’t even had time to do anything else let alone have time to buy a ring. So this made me kind of upset. He’s been super stressed at work for months and I have no idea when its going to let up. I don’t want to push him too hard but I’m half tempted to suggest that when we goto the mall this weekend, that we buy the ring together. It will have to be sized so he would be the one to pick it upand he would be the one to do the whole proposal so I wouldnt steal this thunder. I just want tokind of “help” him get this out of the way to get a move on in the process. Lol I know I’ve only been waiting officially a few months but in my head I’ve been waiting a year. Gah this is driving me crazy.
Post # 2
Been there! As hard as it is, it will be worth waiting for. Try to enjoy this time of excitement and anticipation.
Post # 3
WarrenWE: I went through the exact same thing. Even down to the excuses my FI always fed me. about a month ago I was fed up. I was so upset that I even considered staying with my bestie for the weekend. it was about two months before the actual proposal when he called my BFF and said “I have the ring, please don’t let her break up with me!” Obviously I didn’t know this until after. But he has a plan, let him do it when everything comes together for him. My FI spent 6 months planning our proposal. Try to be patient girl, it will happen…. Xoxo
Post # 4
- Wedding: August 2015 - Backyard Forest
WarrenWE: I ended up waiting a year past the ring conversation/looking at rings. I totally get the space you’re in!
Believe me though, not interfering is the best thing you can do.
You want him to want to do it. You want him to be excited! You don’t want him to do it because he feels rushed or like you are pressuring him. That’s not a very good place to start your engagement journey together.
As hard as it is… BE PATIENT. Get distracted. The time will come, you know it’s coming.
Post # 5
if he really is ready then that might be helpful, but if he isn’t 100% ready like TODAY then you’re just going to get your feelings hurt
Post # 6
WarrenWE: I’m right there with you!!! I’m officially at the 6-month waiting mark, and I’m dying. Last weekend, I broke down and I said I don’t want to wait another month… that I don’t see the point. He replied, “I agree.” It’s a week later, no end in sight, and I’ve been mad since Thursday night. I was mad enough yesterday thay I started thinking about what I’ll do if he doesn’t propose at the end of the 1-month mark.
I think it’s just a tough weekend for all of us 🙁 We somehow need to suck it up for now…
Post # 7
My advice is to chill out!! You’re obviously planning on spending the rest of your life with your SO. Does it really matter if he proposes in 3 days, 3 months or 3 years? I’ve been ‘waiting’ for nearly 6 years and although we’ve discussed it, I’d much prefer my SO to propose when he wants to as opposed to him feeling like he has too. You’ve said he’s stressed and it sounds like he’s working hard for a better life for the both of you, isn’t that more important at the moment? He’ll propose when he’s ready, relax!! Xx
Post # 8
P.S you also don’t want to ruin the surprise!! My SO is the type of man whereby the more people tell him to do something, the more it makes him not want to do it. Xx
Post # 9
I was definitely in your position, too. My husband and I started looking at and discuss specific rings in August and he didn’t propose until November. However, I knew by the end of September that he had ordered a custom ring and he told me it takes about 12 weeks to come in. It gave me a lot of peace of mind to know it was definitely going to happy, and it turned out that he actually lied. The custom jeweller had quoted him 6-8 weeks, and it came in at exactly 6. He proposed that day and I was definitely not expecting it.
Anyway, short version is that maybe you should order it together, but let him be in charge of corresponding with the jeweller so there’s still an element of surprise?
Post # 10
been there, still doing that! lol. he might just want to have control over the situation and wants to propose as a suprise, and talking about it and getting involved with the ring selection and shopping ruins that for him. that’s what my boyfriend told me – and asked me to stop talking about ring shopping because he wants me out of the plan. instead of focusing on the ring, focus on the fact that you want to spend your life with him.
also, if he’s anything like a lot of other guys, including mine, work stress becomes home stress. you don’t want to add ring stress to the equation. i learned this the hard way, and know its annoying to wait, but it’s like anything else in life, things happen when you least expect them.