(Closed) Rant: What happened to “hi” or “thank you”!!

posted 8 years ago in The Lounge
Post # 3
47285 posts
Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

Maybe they have given up trying to be polite to customers who are most often talking or texting and completely ignoring them.

Try being the first to say “hello= how is your day going?”

Post # 5
2700 posts
Sugar bee

People are losing common decency. Don’t fret about it, as it’s not your fault and beyond your control. I always try to be super nice to everyone just in case, also, if we do ever have children, I will teach them how to be normal, friendly human beings. Not selfish, rude, and grumpy.

Post # 7
1543 posts
Bumble bee

YES! This is one of my pet peeves. I want to yell at all these grumpy-guses, “If being polite is too much of a burden for you, then maybe you shouldn’t be working with the public.”  

Post # 8
2192 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2012

I always say hi first.  Even if its grumbled back, oh well.  I tried.  I am also known for telling jokes to the cashier and saying “No not funny?” when they don’t laugh.  Humbug.

I had an incident of no hello that annoyed the poo out of me.  As a nanny I am always seeing the same people and chat with the moms about their kids, etc.  This one mom never acknowledges me, avoids eye contact, etc and today she was already past me before she answered my hello.  Lovely…

Post # 10
5147 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2011

It’s sad people don’t know how to be friendly anymore.

I worked at a grocery store in college. I actually got a raise for smiling! A costumer called my manager and told him I was also smiling and friendly, so he gave me a 20c raise!


Also general helping out. I was in Walmart, trying to carry an armful of stuff (I should have got a basket, but I didn’t), and I dropped an item. While I’m trying to reach down, bending all weird to not drop my other items, about 10 people walked by (I was in the front of the store almost to the cash registers). If I see someone in that situation, I would pick up the item for them! And when I have kids, I’ll teach them the same thing! I also pick up pens and change for people when they drop them, and I run after people when they leave their keys/sunglasses/etc at the checkout and I’ll the next customer in line. And I pick up things babies drop that their parents don’t notice, such as when a blanket falls off the stroller and they walk away without realizing it.

Post # 11
410 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

Yup, this drives me insane. I have worked customer service jobs almost exsclusively since high school. One of them was at Trader Joe’s  for a couple of years. If you don’t have Trader Joe’s by you, they are notorious for encouraging their staff to be super peppy and friendly, ALL THE TIME. It was kind of annoying sometimes because while I am a people person I don’t love everyone all the time, and let’s face it, some people are a holes and hard to be nice too.

Most customers love it there though, because it is a nice change from the wet blanket employees at regular grocery stores, but some people are just cranks and can’t be pleased. One lady actually complained that I was too bubbly when checking her out. All I did was ask her how she was going to cook her acorn squash. I was genuinely curious because I had not made one ever at that point. LOL!

Post # 12
1474 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011 - Bent Creek Winery (Livermore, California); Reception: Family Residence (San Ramon, California)

I’ve noticed it’s a regional thing. When I lived in NYC, the service was terrible basically everywhere, and hardly anyone ever said “hello” or any form of salutation when helping a customer. Now I’m back in California, and I’ve noticed that people are so much nicer! Actually, they’re not extraordinarily nice, they just show common decency when interacting with other people. And after two years in New York, that feels like the nicest thing in the world to me!

Post # 13
7172 posts
Busy Beekeeper

I think it depends where you live.  In Los Angeles, no one seems to say hello.  When we visited Portland we LOVED how friendly everyone was…. Darling Husband and I have a little game where we’ll cheerily say ‘hello’ to people to see if we’ll get a hello back.  Most often, we get a confused look as if we were crazy!

Post # 14
2700 posts
Sugar bee

@parasol: It is very much a regional thing I’ve noticed. Here in TX everyone and their cousin is rude but back in ND, people are so totally different.

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