- 6 years ago
- Wedding: June 2011
My sister and I were raised to be acceptable of everyone. And we both are.
But it seems my mother has forgot what she taught us!
Now my mom makes comments about people’s race, how black men just want to be unemployeed and marry white women and mooch off them. Or how black people need to quit sitting around on welfare. Etc. (I always point out to her that people of ANY race can be lazy and unproductive. And likewise people of any race can be very productive members of society. It’s not a “race thing”.)
She also comments frequently on how my cousin is “going turn out gay” because of how his parents are raising him. I don’t agree with how they are raising him; they are raising him to be a helpless, overweight wimp. But that doesn’t mean he’ll be gay! People aren’t “turned gay”! And wimpy doesn’t equal gay!
My husband and I are both very supportive of gay marriage. We don’t care if our unborn son turns out gay or straight, we want him to be happy and when he chooses a partner as an adult, be with someone who loves and respects him; gender doesn’t matter!
And then there’s religion. She also is obsessed with how she thinks Obama isn’t a Christian, she says “it will come out later that he’s Muslim!”. While I don’t agree with a lot of Obama’s poltical viewpoints, his religion is a non-issue!
And she keeps telling me when we look for a pediatrician for our baby I’m pregnant with, to ask if he/she is Christian, because she doesn’t want someone who doesn’t beleive in God taking care of her grandson. (She has no idea my husband is athiest.) I don’t think religion has any factor on how skilled someone is at their job! (Heck, I work at a hospital, many of our doctors are from India. I haven’t ever asked people their religion, but I suspect we have a large percent of doctors here that are Hindu or other religions, and they are great doctors!)
She didn’t used to be like this, at least she never voiced it around my sister and I growing up. It annoys me she’s become so judgemental of others. And the worst part is, she’s a school counseller! She should know that these things are false!
And I don’t want her to be saying things like this around my kid if he goes to stay with them for week-long visits when he’s older!
Other random things she’s freaked out about:
Our baby will be kidnapped because there was a baby that went missing from my city last year. (And about that case: it’s widely beleived the parents of the baby were involved with the disappearance. Too many gaps in their stories, they refused to talk to police, etc. The whole thing is very suspicious.)
She keeps telling me I can never move anywhere else. I can understand that she’d prefer family be close, but she flat-out will spend an entire phone conversation telling me why KS/MO is so great and how horrible every other part of the country is. And how I wouldn’t be successful anywhere else.
Everything about how to raise baby, even though she keeps swearing she won’t do it because her mom and Mother-In-Law drove her crazy when she was a new mother. She’s even started telling me how I shouldn’t ever get them this toy or that that toy, etc. (She even wanted to NAME my baby!)
She freaks out about every little thing. My sister lives in Florida, she freaks out that my neice and nephew will get eaten by sharks. My husband and I went to Florida last month for vacation, my mom was all worried about us getting eaten by sharks or stung by jelly-fish. (I grew up on a farm. She never worried about my sister and I like this back then! We’d wander for miles, through pastures, down to the river. There were rattle-snakes, mountain lions, badgers, etc. She never freaked out about us exploring!)
I’ll stop there because this is getting very long. I’m so SO F**KING FRUSTRATED AND ANNOYED!!! This is NOT how I was raised! She should know better!