(Closed) Rant: Why has my mother gone off the deep end?!

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

Oh my word! I don’t even know what to say…. :-0

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hmm. I’m concerned that she seems to have done a complete 180 in her personality.  Any chance you can talk her in to seeing a dr that can refer her to a psychiatrist? Generally complete 180s  are not a good thing mentally, and while I think they vmcan be brought ony menopause ( don’t quote me, my exam on this stuff was this morning and I am already forgetting ) or some sort of trauma to the head likehave fell or bopped herself or got in a car accident. 

Post # 5
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

Geez, if she hasn’t always been like this I would be seriously alarmed.  Could she be losing it?

Post # 6
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2011

Eesh, that sounds rough. Has your mother had a check-up lately? I ask only because personality changes and lack of verbal control can be manifestations of physical issues.

I don’t have many suggestions for dealing with these comments (assuming there’s nothing physically wrong) other than just ending the conversation when it turns ugly. I’ve done that with older relatives who are either seriously misguided or operate without a filter.

Relative: Well, you know the only reason (blah blah some bigoted or inappropriate comment).

Me: Hmm, I don’t see that being true myself. So, how about (other topic).

Relative: (Continues with inappropriate topic).

Me: Well, I’ll talk to you later.

Only thing that’s worked for me. Sadly, I don’t think you can change people’s minds on these things unless you just firmly demonstrate that you won’t listen to this baloney, and probably not even then.

I’m sorry this is happening with your mom. Best of luck.

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

She should see a doctor, because drastic changes in behavior, esp. drastic changes in belief systems!, are not an ordinary part of growing older. Is she at the age to go through menopause? Hormonal changes can make some women really change their behavior, and there is treatment for it. 

Post # 9
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: June 2012

One thing that might help, but even if it doesn’t might make you feel better, is to just calmly and clearly tell her what of her opinions hurt you to hear, and what you’d like your child to not grow up hearing. You do, after all, have every right to keep harmful and negative statements away from young children, who will certainly pick up language and even viewpoints very quickly and uncritically from grandparents.

Hope it gets better!

Post # 10
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

That’s so frustrating, i’m sorry 🙁 i don’t mean to worry you unnecessarily but i know of someone who had a similar thing happen and it turned out to be because of a brain injury.

Post # 12
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Helper bee

Sadly, this happens sometimes as people age. 🙁

Post # 13
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

I love my momma, but I think she is crazy too. In fact, a lot of what you just typed up could have been something I typed up about my own mom.

Post # 14
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

Hmm… I would still have he go see a doctor. If she is having some sort of cognitiveproblems catching it early is the best thing to do. Especially of its menapause related or even age related

Post # 15
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Helper bee

I SWEAR we have the same mother. The menopause correlation is an interesting thought.

I also think that as I’ve grown older my views have changed. I’ve moved away from the small town mentalitly and my mom still lives there. Maybe I notice it more now because it just sounds so ridiculous. IDK… I’m glad I’m not the only one though.

 

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