- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2012
Me and FH got engaged in WI and planned on getting married in WI, but last minute we moved to TX to be closer to his family due to family/job issues. So we’re in TX now and planning to elope w/o all the drama but I still want my “dream” wedding so FH said we would get married in WI at a latter date. Problem is budget, I’m hoping to have the wedding in August 2012 when my dad has his vacation(he works swing shift and my mom is a stay at home mom, plus my 2 sisters won’t be in school so I’m going according to their schedule) Most of the drama when planning a wedding in WI was when my gma put down the deposit(as a present) (The chapel she put $ down for had a chapel and reception hall but was soon having 2nd thoughts on the chapel due to stairs and the tiny walkway plus if I staid with this chapel I’d have to dish out extra $ for a photographer) she wanted her daughters(my aunts) there and I didn’t. I just wanted immediate family and call it a day, my budget is so tight we were looking at a potluck and that is not something I dreamed of. So I argued with her over budget and my one aunt told her behind my back that if we couldn’t afford a wedding we should have one at all. I turned to bridezilla at that moment and almost called it off, my Maid/Matron of Honor told me I should wait and have the wedding of my dreams $25,000 for a day?! I just want to marry my soul mate does it need to be so darned fantastic? why do I need to compete with who had the best wedding? and then she goes on about how her boyfriend has a spending limit of $3,000 for an engagment ring, he wants to spend more but she put her foot down. Than my cousin who got married a couple months ago had a lavish wedding of $7,000 in which she bought a $900 and spend $3,000 on food..ugh my car was $800 and I bought a white bmaids dress for $200. I once went to FH friend’s wedding they got married in the courthouse and had a reception in the garage and it was nice it was very personal. I went to my dad’s coworkers wedding and there were a lot of people and when the music came on nobody dance everybody just hung outside and smoked, we left early it was so dull. I just wanted a really nice small wedding, splurge on the 10 people I invited, personal ceremony and take them out for a steak dinner and have a great time not penny pinch so I could invite everyone and have a cheap looking wedding. So now that I’m replanning a wedding in WI I found a great chapel that takes photos and video of the ceremony all included in their price but if I bring everyone I’m stuck on reception, the chapel is all the way in the country and I’ll have a cake and punch reception at most so I can’t find a place anywhere near the chapel so what do I do now? I don’t belong to a church in WI and in order to do so I have to go to a class and all that jazz and I don’t have time to become a member, we’ll be in WI for maybe 1-2weeks. One aunt got married in a courthouse for her two weddings and then her 3rd wedding she finally got to get married in the church and we went to a banquet hall to eat where her Darling Husband complained about the food bill and ended up sitting at the bar and playing on his cell, in the other room there was a large wedding and their music was so loud we could here it in our small room and my aunt was miserable b/c she always wanted the big wedding but couldn’t afford it they were going to get married in the courthouse but her DH’s dad gave them $ to help pay for dinner, there was about 20 of us max and the people who set up the room thought it was a birthday party b/c it was so small. So do I have a cheap park wedding with potluck and hope I’m happy? Do I just suck it up pay my gma back her $200 despoit listen to her b*tch about her daughters not being there and have the wedding I want?!