Post # 1
Ok, so this is a rant, if you don’t want to read it that is cool, I understand. I just got a phone call like 5 minutes ago from my dad’s gf and it kinda urked me. I am a daddys girl. I will do anything for my dad, anything in the world. I moved out of my moms house as soon as I graduated, drove 3 hours and moved in with my dad jobless and knew no one. I still follow a cerfew at his house and im 22(when im staying there, I dont live there anymore). Anyways, he is my daddy and that is how it has always been. My mom is already remarried and my stepdad is cool….but i just dont get along with my moms side like i do my dads….
Onto the urkyness. His gf is awesome. She is a lot of fun and he loves her. He is happy and that is truly all that matters to me. If my dad didnt like my FH I would drop him on his butt and he knows that and totally respects that. She just called me and asked my permission to marry my dad. YAY!!! I am glad they are getting married, what I am not to happy about is the date. We have not had a chace to offically set a date becuase of several things goin on. They are wanting to get married on June 30, 2010. And I am a bridesmaid. So I have to be there.
Onto moms side. Now i dont particularly care for my step family there… They are all loud and obnoxious. They have a family reunion next June the first or second weekend and they "can’t miss it"….. now if it were a once every 5 year thing i would totally understand that,but they have one EVERY STINKIN YEAR!!! And I have to wait until they announce the date to schedule my wedding so it doesnt interfear. So nix one more day in June….
We cant get married the second weekend in June bc that is my FH anniversery from his first marriage…..
BAH!!!! Am I going nuts being aggrivated that I want something once in my life and now I have to plan around all these people. I totally will move stuff for my dad bc I want him to be happy, but the family reunion made me so mad when mom called me. I just dont want wedding and honeymoons to overlap and cause bad things to happen…. Help ease my mind! Please!
Post # 3
Are you only considering the month of June?
Post # 4
you might save a lot opting out of wedding season…
Post # 5
Is it possible to have your wedding during a different month? It sounds like you’ve decided you want a June wedding, but you didn’t really specify. That being said, I understand a bit how you are feeling. We moved our date about 3 times before making it official because of family/friends and their plans. We got so stressed out by trying to work with everyone else’s schedule, that we finally had to say "this is the date, come if you can" to make it easier on ourselves.
It sounds like you are really happy for your dad (how sweet of his gf to ask your permission and ask you to be a BM!), so I would definetly work with them. As for your Mom’s side, I always try to be accomodating to family b/c,…well, they’re family. I don’t really have a better reason! I would (nicely) let them know that you would like to know as soon as possible so that you could plan your big day. (Just a thougth: If you had your wedding on a Friday night or Saturday, could they have the reunion the following day, or is it an entire weekend thing? Just thinking if they were all going to be invited to the wedding and were in town anyway…)
You have time, so I’m sure everything will come together. I’m in your area, and I can tell you that several vendors have told me that June is a busy time. Depending on your plans and location, you may be able to save some money (and your sanity) if you choose a different month, as vistagirl mentioned. Good luck!
Post # 6
Thanks for replying girls. I was just a little blindsided by everything. The reason we want to get married in June is becuase of school really. I am in college until mid may and most of the aunts and uncles will be traveling about 6 hours to get here for the wedding. Some have kids so summer is just easier. We really don’t care about the money, its not about the money, it is about us. So we are not planning around the premium times. Also, because most of our friends work at bars and such, nights are out. We are getting marriend early enough i the day that they can get to work at a decent time. We would go later, but becuase they are managers of the places it is kinda hard for them to not be at work when they only have to be there 3 nights a week…
Right now I am letting it all go. I am going to see when my dad books the venue and see who all they are planning on inviting. I really dont want to make my aunt and grandparents on his side chose between his wedding and mine since both will be 6 hours from their homes and they may not be able to get 2 weekends off really close together. We will most likely move ours up rather than back… Depending on school. M want to be done when we get married.
As for the family reunion. I dont know how long it actually lasts but their family all goes to littlerock for the weekend at least and that is quite a ways from here. i dont go, but it is important to my mom.. and as much as we fight, she is still my mom..
But yeah. thanks again. im going to get ready for the river tomorrow.:D