(Closed) Ranting here so I don't bite my FI's head off.

posted 5 years ago in Home
Post # 3
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Busy Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Omgbunnies:  Good idea to rant here instead of biting off your FI’s head 🙂 I’ve started doing that too and it helps me calm down a lot!

I don’t have too much advice, but I wanted to let you know that I agree with you about mobile homes not being shameful! I think it’s a great idea because instead of paying rent towards an apartment without anything to show, you are paying a mortgage towards something you can own.

As far as FI’s job search just keep encouraging him. I was on the other side of that after I graduated. I had a hard time finding a job and Fiance had to keep encouraging me to apply to jobs. I just got really discouraged after getting turned down so many times that it got hard for me to search for jobs because it felt so useless. He kept encouraging me and helping me out and I eventually found something so just keep encouraging (even though I’m sure it’s super frustrating)!

Post # 4
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Newbee

GOOD LUCK!

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

I don’t think there’s anything shameful about mobile homes, but that stereotype is pretty common. Plus, tornadoes zero in on those things.

But if it’s a mortgage situation, I’m not sure how you would qualify with neither of you having a job?

Post # 6
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Omgbunnies:  Ahh the art of compromise. Have you both discussed living arrangements post marriage? if you have a son, what about the schools in the area where you would be interested?  If you bought a mobile home now, what would happen to it once you’re married?  All of these questions you should ask yourself before seriously contemplating moving. 

Post # 9
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: April 2014

@Omgbunnies:  Yeah I don’t think in here New England you’re in too much danger of getting hit by a tornado.

Mobile home parks definitely have a stigma to them up here, but if it’s something that will make your life better than why not? It seems like it might be a good fit for you to get out of your parents’ homes and get through school and whatnot. It’s a starter home, not a forever home.

Post # 11
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Omgbunnies:  Ok, I get it. well everyone has to start somewhere right? I think it’s nice to have a goal i.e moving in together, sounds like you both are eagerly working hard to make it a reality, you finishing school and him progressing at the workplace. try not to be hasty, buying a house will probably be the largest purchase you both will make. make sure your decision is a sound investment, not an emotional one. 

Post # 13
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Omgbunnies:  Oh, I get it. I took “looking for a new job” to mean he didn’t have one since graduating.

Well, your Fiance is a bit of a snob. Now you know. 🙂

Post # 15
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: June 2013

@Omgbunnies:  Good to hear:) I understand your frustration. getting a place to call your own is important. I was in a similar situation (first marriage) I ultimately bought something thinking I’d only be living there for a few years and guess what? Im typing my response to you in the same damn kitchen of the same damn townhouse I bought before I got married!! LOL!! this place came in handy, it outlasted a marriage:( and now I’ll be sad to be moving out in June When I marry my sweetheart. I wish you the best of luck!!!

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