- 9 years ago
- Wedding: May 2013
Thanks again for the replies! Let me get into a little more detail on the subject….
As far as my moral reasons for wanting the engagement to hurry it up… In 2010 and 2011 I had quite a bit of life changing events take place. He was there for them and with those events came my new interest in religion. I’ve been a sideline christian my whole life but it wasn’t until my last near death experience that I’ve become more interested in putting my faith to use.
He and I have been living together for 2 years and needless to say (it is 2012 after all) there is a very “intimate” part to our relationship. Something I’ve been more and more concerned about lately. I’ve been working up the courage and trying to find the words to tell him that I would prefer us to become abstinant until the wedding date. So for moral reasons, I’d prefer it to start sooner since I’m already (as well as he) planning a longer engagement (18 months approximately)
As far as the planning goes, my SO knows about the planning, I’ve even started some of the DIYs and he just laughs at me and will sometimes ask about it but typically just sees it as “girl stuff”. When it comes to talking the details with him, for the most part I never try to bring it up, I wait for him to. A couple of weeks ago he was the one to mention having out wedding in a place we like to go for a common hobby of ours. I told him about the places I found and he loved the idea so our ceremony and reception places were picked that night.
I’m only worried about asking him because… It’s not talking about marriage that worries me, it’s the constant thought that at any moment he could change his mind, and the idea of that really worries me.
As far as him forgetting… I don’t think he’s forgotten that he wants to marry me, but he does have a short memory when it comes to saving his money for certain things, I have to be the one to remind of the bills etc so I am concerned that he keeps forgetting to save money…
Then again 1/2 his paycheck seems to have dissappeared this week… Since our talk of the ring he keeps putting money to the side but seems to forget why he put it there and spend it nearly every time…
Thanks again for the replies, I haven’t said anything to him yet… I have to find the words…
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