- 7 years ago
- Wedding: February 2011
First off I want to say that I don’t mean to offend anyone in this post. If you are offended I want to apologize in advanced.
Alright, so I was raised by a catholic and a baptist so we never went to church or talked about the bible because my parents wanted to leave our religious beliefs up to us and when they talked about it before they always ended up in fighting. When my parents got divorced they both started going to church so we went with them. I didn’t like the baptist church my mom started attending because women and children were not allowed to speak. If we had questions we were supposed to ask the man of the house to explain it when we got home. I’m not sure if all Baptist churches are that way but this one was. Then I decided to go to the church my dad was attending…a penticostal church. A bit odd for a catholic but he liked it better than how he was raised and I loved it…until he and my latest step-mother started forcing us to go to church when we were sick (actually throwing-up sick not fake I-don’t-feel-well sick) but she could stay home eating cookie dough when she was “sick.” It pushed all of us away from the church because they were both big hypocrites.
My Fiance was raised in a church here in town. His grandparents had been going there since before his mom was born so that was the family church. The pastor renewed his grandparents vows, married his mom, his uncle, his brother, his sister, etc. Needless to say he was expecting to marry my Fiance off too. We didn’t even have to actually ask him before he was excited about it. Threw his life his mom has gone to church then decided it wasn’t worth it and quit and then gone back and started talking about the bible and how God saved her from the sin she was living and then quit going again and stopped reading the bible and started going back off and on his whole life. His mom and step-dad are huge hypocrites when they go to church but pretend they aren’t and then they quit going and talk about how stupid it is before going back.
Now we both are fine with christians and non-christians alike. There is only one person in his family, other than his grandparents, that are adamant about church. She waited until marriage to sleep with her husband, they go to church every sunday morning and night as well as wednesday service. They read the bible every night out loud to their daughter, etc. They are true christians as they are supposed to be (from everything I learned in church). They don’t judge people, they help as much as they can with money, food, clothing, etc. They are great people. We both know that according to the bible we are living in sin so why should we go to church knowing that and knowing that we aren’t going to change our ways? Once we get married it will be a different story and the people who judge at the church won’t look down on us but why go to a church where the “christians” do things the church and bible say not to do? We were talking yesterday and realized that both of us think of it the same way. Neither of us really believe it…we have trouble believing in HIM when we are told as children that Santa is real and that the Tooth Fairy and Easter Bunny are real but later find out they are fake. We both know HE may be real…we just aren’t sure what to believe.
Both of our mothers got pregnant before they were married. His mom got pregnant then married while pregnant and then started sleeping with my FI’s dad while she was getting a divorce. She was still married to her first husband when she got pregnant with her second child. My Fiance is the only one that is “legitimate” since she was still married to her second husband and had my Fiance while with his dad. But again, she started sleeping with someone else when they were getting divorced. My dad is going threw his 4th divorce and slept with all but the last one before they were married. We know that people make mistakes…but they judge us about the same things they did. We are getting married in the church he grew up in and having an actual wedding instead of eloping like we thought of doing numerous times…all to make the parents happy. Yet both sides are still judging us on how we live and calling themselves christian. According to the bible the people aren’t supposed to judge and should leave it to HIM. It bothers me when they judge us when they did the SAME THING when they were young.
I’m sorry it was so long but I had to get it out before I exploded on someone in the family. Thanks to the people who actually read threw it all. 🙂
Again: I apologize if I offended anyone.