(Closed) Rated XXXX bachelorette party ?

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Post # 2
2228 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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khopenyc :  Every time I see one of these “stripper out of control” stories, it’s a dancer coming to a private residence/hotel room. 

I’m all for the slightly naughty fun of a burlesque club or a showgirl scene. When these move out of the club, lines gets crossed a whole lot more easily.

What you’re describing sounds gross. First of all I would be HUMILIATED to know a huge group of my friends (and family!) was watching me get pawed over by a sex worker. Like, are you an exhibitionist? You want to invite all the wedding guests upstairs so they can witness the consummation, too?

Good for you for having the self respect to leave. A lot of people feel sort of socially paralyzed when confronted with inappropriate behaviour. Nobody wants to be a prude. It takes courage to say, no thanks, and walk. 

What went on sounds downright nasty and the bride should be ashamed of herself.


Post # 3
5227 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: October 2017

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khopenyc :  

I would have left too. I don’t know if this is typical for these parties but it’s not for me. I would have been miserable and snuck out too.

It would take a long time to get those images out of my head.

Post # 4
5101 posts
Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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khopenyc :  That seems completely out of control. I’ve seen make strippers grab the brides hand and put it on his chest, Doing push ups on the bride, gyrating a penis in her face and some sort of penis  flash to the bride only as the finale. I have never ever seen a stripper give any form of oral sex or oral sex simulation as part of the show. 

I kind of find the whole stripper thing icky and embarrassing to watch TBH. That display would have left me completely shocked and I would have left too. I feel sorry for the groom. That is really poor behaviour on the part of the bride… I can get the jokey male lap dance but as soon as he started trying to lick bits and put a face in my crotch I would have put a stop to it.

Aunty knew that this was a xxx stripper routine hence the please don’t record it spiel. 


Post # 5
2403 posts
Buzzing bee

He was licking her vag? Even with underwear on, that’s over the top. I agree with 

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Sansa85, I would have left too. 

To answer your question 

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khopenyc, no, this is not normal. Having a stipper would be considered normal, in my opinion. Even lap dances would be considered normal! But this is just … gross. 

Post # 6
9565 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper
  • Wedding: September 2015

that is so gross!

Post # 7
13 posts
  • Wedding: October 2018

EWW! I can’t imagine anything worse! I would have done the same and left!


Post # 9
1211 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: August 2018

Gross!!  Definitely not the type of bachelorette party I’d be interested in.  My fiancé would be understandably outraged by that.  I would absolutely get dumped if I pulled that trash, and would deserve it. 

Post # 10
11359 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

On every level, NOPE. 

Not okay for men and not okay for women. Why would anyone do this before walking down the aisle, you’ve already made a commitment. You don’t get a pass (unless mutually agreed to, of course)  and shouldn’t want one. If you do, NOPE. 

Post # 11
601 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2017

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teamroro :  I’m only responding to you because you were the first to make a comment but I’m kind of disturbed by this whole thread.

i don’t know the bride and I wasn’t there but some people freeze in these situations and don’t know what to do. “The bride should be ashamed of herself” isn’t a fair thing to say because she might have been horrified but too many people were watching and she didn’t know what to do. If the aunt had any clue what was going to happen perhaps she should be ashamed of herself!!

not me personally, but I know women who have frozen with unwanted sexual attention and THEY SHOULD NOT FEEL ASHAMED. Just needed to point that out for those who have been in that situation.

If the bride wanted a crazy stripper to simulate oral sex, okay, not super kosher. But I’m just imagining a situation where she was kind of thrown into it by over zealous party planners and I’m horrified for her and the guests. I actually feel sick.

Post # 12
2228 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise

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littlecats :  I agree that people subjected to unwanted sexual attention should not feel ashamed. The aunt signposting the bride didn’t want photos makes me feel like there was a pretty good notion of what was coming. 

Also, if you’re sitting in front of a group of people who care the most about you, I would think you’d be able to say, “No thanks” or “Please don’t do that” to someone putting their hands and tongue on your privates. 

I have no right to say how anyone “should” feel. I just find the events described revolting and way across the line of acceptable bachelorette antics. I know I would feel humiliated to be put in that position, but I would put a stop to it. That she didn’t, could be for lots of reasons. I just know it skeeved me out.

Post # 13
7977 posts
Bumble Beekeeper

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littlecats :  Nope sorry, disagree. If my Fiance was “thrown into it by over zealous party planners” and the same thing happened you can guarantee I’d be expecting him to shut it down. Just because it’s a woman doing questionable things with a stripper does NOT make it any better than if it were a male, and does not make it any less important to, uh, not cheat on your spouse. 

Post # 14
3431 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

That is awful. I hope the bride consented to all of that because it is disturbing if she didn’t. If the aunt knew this was going to happen then she is sick. I would have definitely left the party. I couldn’t be friends with people who would do that or enjoy it. You said other girls were also participating. These are not people I would want to spend time with. Their values are way too different from mine. To each their own–as long as they are consenting adult they can do what they want. They’re just not my friends.

Post # 15
5775 posts
Bee Keeper

Nothing says “I’m ready for the commitment of marriage” like a woman allowing a stripper to get his tongue all up in her bizniz in front of her friends and auntie. undecided

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