Post # 1
So my friend is getting married next month and saturday was her bachelorette party.Needless to say I was there and ended up leaving early because It seemed to be be getting WAY out of hand.
It was all nice and cool until the stripper got there. Granted I have seen both male and female strippers before and yeah they dance and so on but I had NEVER seen a male stripper on this level. Well, the stripper arrives, and goes in the bathroom to change then comes out to do his job. The aunt of the bride gave a speech, to please not record anything because this was her big day and so on. Well After a while I relized why she didnt want anyone recording. Her Fiancee sees that im sure it would be an automatic dump.
To cut the story short, the stripper was basically touching and rubbing the bride, and I would say having sex with clothes. He was slapping her ass, grabbing it, rubbing it. He was naked wearing a bandana to cover his cock (she had this little outfit where her whole ass was hanging out). He even had his tongue on her vag, with clothes on you know but still. He then did the same to other woman at the party. It was pretty outrageous and out of control in my opinion. I ended up leaving because I felt really uncomfortable.
Is this normal ? Does this happen with strippers? I have never attended such a bacholorette. While I am not judging my friend because whatever she chooses to do, its her, but I would be furious if I was her fiancè if I found out. I would also feel very disrespected if it was the other way around.
Post # 2
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
Every time I see one of these “stripper out of control” stories, it’s a dancer coming to a private residence/hotel room.
I’m all for the slightly naughty fun of a burlesque club or a showgirl scene. When these move out of the club, lines gets crossed a whole lot more easily.
What you’re describing sounds gross. First of all I would be HUMILIATED to know a huge group of my friends (and family!) was watching me get pawed over by a sex worker. Like, are you an exhibitionist? You want to invite all the wedding guests upstairs so they can witness the consummation, too?
Good for you for having the self respect to leave. A lot of people feel sort of socially paralyzed when confronted with inappropriate behaviour. Nobody wants to be a prude. It takes courage to say, no thanks, and walk.
What went on sounds downright nasty and the bride should be ashamed of herself.
Post # 3
I would have left too. I don’t know if this is typical for these parties but it’s not for me. I would have been miserable and snuck out too.
It would take a long time to get those images out of my head.
Post # 4
That seems completely out of control. I’ve seen make strippers grab the brides hand and put it on his chest, Doing push ups on the bride, gyrating a penis in her face and some sort of penis flash to the bride only as the finale. I have never ever seen a stripper give any form of oral sex or oral sex simulation as part of the show.
I kind of find the whole stripper thing icky and embarrassing to watch TBH. That display would have left me completely shocked and I would have left too. I feel sorry for the groom. That is really poor behaviour on the part of the bride… I can get the jokey male lap dance but as soon as he started trying to lick bits and put a face in my crotch I would have put a stop to it.
Aunty knew that this was a xxx stripper routine hence the please don’t record it spiel.
Post # 5
He was licking her vag? Even with underwear on, that’s over the top. I agree with Sansa85
, I would have left too.
To answer your question khopenyc
, no, this is not normal. Having a stipper would be considered normal, in my opinion. Even lap dances would be considered normal! But this is just … gross.
Post # 7
EWW! I can’t imagine anything worse! I would have done the same and left!
Post # 9
Gross!! Definitely not the type of bachelorette party I’d be interested in. My fiancé would be understandably outraged by that. I would absolutely get dumped if I pulled that trash, and would deserve it.
Post # 10
On every level, NOPE.
Not okay for men and not okay for women. Why would anyone do this before walking down the aisle, you’ve already made a commitment. You don’t get a pass (unless mutually agreed to, of course) and shouldn’t want one. If you do, NOPE.
Post # 11
I’m only responding to you because you were the first to make a comment but I’m kind of disturbed by this whole thread.
i don’t know the bride and I wasn’t there but some people freeze in these situations and don’t know what to do. “The bride should be ashamed of herself” isn’t a fair thing to say because she might have been horrified but too many people were watching and she didn’t know what to do. If the aunt had any clue what was going to happen perhaps she should be ashamed of herself!!
not me personally, but I know women who have frozen with unwanted sexual attention and THEY SHOULD NOT FEEL ASHAMED. Just needed to point that out for those who have been in that situation.
If the bride wanted a crazy stripper to simulate oral sex, okay, not super kosher. But I’m just imagining a situation where she was kind of thrown into it by over zealous party planners and I’m horrified for her and the guests. I actually feel sick.
Post # 12
- Wedding: October 2019 - Chateau Lake Louise
I agree that people subjected to unwanted sexual attention should not feel ashamed. The aunt signposting the bride didn’t want photos makes me feel like there was a pretty good notion of what was coming.
Also, if you’re sitting in front of a group of people who care the most about you, I would think you’d be able to say, “No thanks” or “Please don’t do that” to someone putting their hands and tongue on your privates.
I have no right to say how anyone “should” feel. I just find the events described revolting and way across the line of acceptable bachelorette antics. I know I would feel humiliated to be put in that position, but I would put a stop to it. That she didn’t, could be for lots of reasons. I just know it skeeved me out.
Post # 13
Nope sorry, disagree. If my Fiance was “thrown into it by over zealous party planners” and the same thing happened you can guarantee I’d be expecting him to shut it down. Just because it’s a woman doing questionable things with a stripper does NOT make it any better than if it were a male, and does not make it any less important to, uh, not cheat on your spouse.
Post # 14
That is awful. I hope the bride consented to all of that because it is disturbing if she didn’t. If the aunt knew this was going to happen then she is sick. I would have definitely left the party. I couldn’t be friends with people who would do that or enjoy it. You said other girls were also participating. These are not people I would want to spend time with. Their values are way too different from mine. To each their own–as long as they are consenting adult they can do what they want. They’re just not my friends.
Post # 15
Nothing says “I’m ready for the commitment of marriage” like a woman allowing a stripper to get his tongue all up in her bizniz in front of her friends and auntie.