(Closed) RAWR! "Fiance" vs "boyfriend"

posted 5 years ago in Names
  • poll: Pick your poison
    Fiance - I like it! : (199 votes)
    41 %
    Fiance - I'm a big girl, I can suck it up : (113 votes)
    23 %
    Boyfriend - it ain't worth suffering through! : (58 votes)
    12 %
    Husband - close enough, right? : (22 votes)
    5 %
    Mah Lovah! - haven't figured out a decent alternative, so turning it into a joke.... : (20 votes)
    4 %
    Other - tell please : (17 votes)
    4 %
    Partner! : (55 votes)
    11 %
  • Post # 3
    5245 posts
    Bee Keeper
    • Wedding: April 2013

    @Taeyers:  I hate the word fiance also and I still call him my boyfriend. It just makes it easier. I think I will feel much better when I get to say husband 🙂

    Post # 4
    1623 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    “Partner” works for me. I don’t like boyfriend or fiance.

    Post # 6
    9484 posts
    Buzzing Beekeeper
    • Wedding: October 2012

    FI disliked it in the beginning as well.  He used to call me his girlfriend.  It drove his mother up a wall.  Haha.  So he started using it or called me his wife to be.

    Post # 7
    3371 posts
    Sugar bee
    • Wedding: March 2011

    I think I sound pretentious saying fiance, so I avoided it.  There were times I had to say it, but… ugh… it is a strange word.

    Post # 8
    224 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: September 2012

    @Taeyers:  I fel the same way. Hate the “F” word and rarely say it but when I do I feel as if people will think I’m wanting to be questioned about the wedding/marriage.

    Post # 9
    454 posts
    Helper bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    @Taeyers:  I feel like I am being judged when I say fiance.  There are so many women who gloat when they finally have the opportunity to use that word…and I don’t want to be associated with that ugly stereotype.  I love my FI…but I don’t love people thinking I’m a wedding crazed b-word.

    Post # 10
    1319 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: January 2012

    You know, I didn’t mind fiance in and of itself. It was a weird transition, but for the sake of being correct, I said it. But I really didn’t like the fact that whenever I said ‘fiance’ it sounded like I was trying to bring up my wedding. People act like they’re obligated to comment when you say fiance vs boyfriend. 

    Post # 11
    1079 posts
    Bumble bee
    • Wedding: June 2013

    I personally am a big fan of the word fiance.  I think it is fun to say and it is also nice to be able to call him something other than my boyfriend.  We’ve been together for a few years now and it was always awkward in a professional setting when I’d refer to him as my boyfriend.  I felt like a teenager.  I would call him my significant other to avoid that before we got engaged. 


    Post # 12
    2137 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: October 2012

    ive always called him bf lol but once we moved in together he started calling me his wife so i call him husband when i talk about him to other people lol

    Post # 13
    3697 posts
    Sugar bee

    I like the Spanish word: prometido (prometida for a woman). “My promised one/one who is/has promised.”

    Spanish falls a little short in other areas, though. It uses the same word, novia, for both “girlfriend” and “bride.”

    How would you feel about “husband-to-be?” Too contrived?

    I don’t mind fiance’ in and of itself. I do get twitchy when people don’t make the fiance/fiancee distinction correctly. *sigh*

    Post # 14
    2147 posts
    Buzzing bee
    • Wedding: September 2014

    I called FI my boyfriend once, he got seriously irritated…he wanted the title upgrade. I  love it though, even if sometimes I feel like it can be a little pretentious, almost? I’m glad not to be a girlfriend anymore 🙂

    Post # 15
    11273 posts
    Sugar Beekeeper
    • Wedding: May 2009

    How about referring to him as your future husband?

    Post # 16
    998 posts
    Busy bee
    • Wedding: November 1999

    I always say boyfriend because, like you, I don’t want a lot of attention placed on the fact that I’m getting married.  My situation was a little different tho because we have been engaged over 3 years with our intent to originally get married in March of 2010.  I hated explaining to ppl that I wasn’t sure when I was going to married now and why I didn’t get married already and blah blah blah.  I say boyfriend.  My fiance doesn’t care what I call him.  It really, really, really irks me tho when ppl correct me and say “don’t you mean your fiance??”………

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