Post # 17
@CupCakeMeg: If you are close with the people invited I don’t see why you couldn’t just invite people over the phone and let them know you want to go out to eat after the rehearsal. Definitely make it clear it is not a rehearsal dinner, just dinner out after the rehearsal. In my opinion it’s not that different from inviting people out for a birthday dinner and expecting them to pay their own way. It depends on the people you invite and how common that is and how accepting they’ll be.
@Soladylike: It’s kind of rude to say it’s not “acceptable”. Maybe it’s not the proper etiquette, but its not unacceptable.
Post # 18
We did our Rehearsal Dinner at a restaurant but we just had pizza. I think that ordering whatever you want in theory sounds good but can get really hectic. I think having it at a restaurant is good and you have a good size group enough that they may even put you in a private room, but I think it will be easier on everyone if you dont want to do a buffet style to do a few choices off the menu, so its not so overwhelming. Pick maybe 5 dinner choices and let everyone choose from those.
Post # 19
@kate169: Thanks for giving it to me nicely! Was prepared for some remarks lol. I know its not accepted in terms of etiquette, but we just wanted to bypass using moms house; eliminating the who’s going to prep and warm food while we are rehearsing? and the commute to mom’s house from the venue?
Our wedding is intimate the most people we’d have at a Rehearsal Dinner would be like 20! and thats if everyone attended. I wouldn’t necessarily say its a Rehearsal Dinner, I’d say “Would you like to join us for a bite to eat afterwards, some of us are getting together for some drinks and dinner after the rehearsal.” And then adding somehow that everyone is paying for their own bills.
Thanks again fro the advice ladies!