Post # 1
My Future Mother-In-Law is very generous so for our 1-year-of-being-engaged’iversary (yes, really!) she got us each some packing cubes, luggage tags and bags of travel sized goodies that we’ll need for our cruise. What can I say, she’s pretty rad.
For my shower, my Maid/Matron of Honor made me what she calls an “Oh, shit!” basket. This basket contains just about anything that you could possibly need. Seriously, it has everything. She’s pretty rad, too.
Here’s my problem… I want to make bathroom baskets. These have been on my to-do list for months, long before either of these gifts were received. I was going through our gift pile tonight when it dawned on me that probably 90% of the stuff that we would include in the baskets was already sitting right infront of me from Future Mother-In-Law & Maid/Matron of Honor. We would have to buy all of the stuff that we already have so I started thinking about just using this stuff and purchasing whatever else we have to include. To be honest, this would be a HUGE help. We’re already over budget so the money spent on the baskets (that I really want to have) would just be excess. If we could save on those but still offer them to our guests, that would be fantastic. This sounds good in theory but I wonder if it would be a douchy thing to do since this was gifted to us. I don’t think my Maid/Matron of Honor would even notice that we used her stuff but Future Mother-In-Law probably would (some specific brands and what not).
What do you think? Cut our costs and use what we already have or save the stuff for our HM/Day of prep like it was intended and buy everything? FWIW, I highly doubt everything will be used and whatever we can salvage, we’ll still take with us on the Honeymoon.
Post # 3
Oh dear! I would be incredibly offended if you used a gift I gave you on guests. I think it would be a lot better just to cut the bathroom baskets altogether. No one will miss those, but I’m sure both your Mother-In-Law and Maid/Matron of Honor will notice that you’re basically re-gifting their gifts to your guests!
Post # 4
@UpstateCait: regifting is always a good idea…. unless it’s possible for the person that gave it to you to find out. I think that if your Future Mother-In-Law found out, she would be crushed. I know you’re over budget… but I wouldn’t risk it. I think it’s lovely the people in your life love you so much.
Post # 5
I normally say Hell Yes to regifting, but since both people that gave the gifts will be in attendance to see that you did this; I would say build them from new stock.
By The Way: Bathroom baskets…Douchy… Did you mean to do that??? Cus it seriously made me laugh out loud!
Post # 6
I would take pieces from each to use in your baskets and keep part of it for the original purpose. They’re both family–drop them a quick line and ask if they would be okay with re-purposing some of the items in their gifts. It will probably not be a big deal if we’re just talking about little toiletries! That said, make a trip to the dollar store and get what you can there as well… you’ll be able to find safety pins, sewing kits, nail files, etc. all for $1!
Post # 7
I think it’s fine as long as you put the items in different baskets.
What was the purpose of the “oh shit” basket? When was it supposed to be used?
Bathroom baskets are a great idea for emergencies but I guarantee that 80-90% of the stuff will be leftover.
If you are conerned about your FMIL’s reaction just replace the most obvious items.
Post # 8
@MrsBrightSkies: lol, didn’t mean it but it’s kinda awesome!
Post # 9
I’ve gotten everything for my bathroom baskets free so far. You don’t have oodles of time left, but look into couponing (particularly look up the CVS “game”) and you might be able to get quite a few things free that way so you don’t need to dip into your presents. Also, focus your shopping list – there’s no need to get everything that people include in bathroom baskets, I bet most of it is never used, just the same 15-20%.
ETA: You really can get a lot of the bathroom kit items for free. Here’s what I posted on another thread: Just starting the wedding spending process, but my two bathroom baskets, so far, putting them together completely FREE! (Thanks to coupons and paying attention over time.) That includes: First aid (advil, otc heartburn meds), bandaids, tums, chapstick, bengay & precise pain packs, and purell), toiletries (lens solution, eye drops, deodorant, lotion, disposable toothbrushes, dental floss, mouthwash, hair spray, tampons & pads, lint roller), and tools (sewing kits, nail files, tide to go pens, listerine packs, mints, gum, cotton balls, tissues). I’ve got a list of things I want to add to it and time to wait so I shouldn’t need to spend more than a few bucks at most to fill it out yet have megakits.
Post # 10
For a minute , judging by the title , I thought you were going to ask about inlcluding douching materials in your bathroom baskets. lol
I recommend either buying a scaled down version or just scrap it all together.
Post # 11
@julies1949: I think it was intended for those little emergencies that can pop up on the wedding day.
It included… tampons, tissues, hair spray, advil, pepto, scope, deod, bobby pins, nail file/clippers, first aid kit, extra bandaids (I hope she didn’t forsee an accident of sorts!), tums, hand cream, baby powder, gum, tide to go, q-tips, sewing kit, lip balm, floss, lint roller and alcohol (which will be kept for me!).
We’re getting ready and married in the same location (a resort) so if I do have an “Oh, shit!” moment, someone can always run down and get what I need. I want to offer the baskets to our guests but I fully plan to take everything thats left over home with us so we can bring it on our Honeymoon.
Post # 12
@Eva Peron: bwahahahaha!! You make me laugh!
Honestly, my feelings would be hurt if I took the time to put together a basket of toiletries for you to take on your Honeymoon and then you turned around and used them in your bathroom baskets. I say if you’re over budget and can’t afford to make them, scrap the bathroom baskets. I had great intentions of doing them as well and then just decided I couldn’t be bothered in the end and you know what? Absolutely no one missed them. Most people carry tissues, lipstick/gloss, pain meds, a comb, tampons, and any other essential items in their purse. It is a really nice gesture, but completely unnecessary, particularly in your situation as to make them you either need to go over budget, or hurt two people’s feelings by re-gifting their thoughtful gift to you. A lose-lose situation in that case. Just my two cents though!
Post # 13
@UpstateCait: If you do, I would talk to her about it first just to put it nicely and give her some heads up. Chances are good she put a lot of time and effort into creating it. It would be kind of crappy to arrive at a wedding and see your gift being distributed among guests, you know?
Post # 14
@UpstateCait: After reading your post about the basket your Maid/Matron of Honor made you – I think you definitely need to use that one for its intended purpose! Have it in the room where you’re getting ready in case you need it and keep it somewhere readily accessible for you and the bridal party throughout the evening. If you didn’t use it in that manner, your Maid/Matron of Honor would definitely know and her feelings would probably be hurt. You have such thoughtful friends and family! 🙂
Post # 15
Honestly, if it is generic stuff that you would find at Dollar Tree or Target, I would re-use it. How is she going to know that that is HER Pantene hair spray?
Post # 16
I’m the kind of person who would notice these things and I’d be incredibly offended by it (this would only be the case if it was specific brand name stuff that I would KNOW was that same as what I gave you).
Honestly, we put our bathroom basket together (women only – there’s one way to cut costs! Do the guys REALLY need one!?) for less than $30 and it had a shitload of stuff in it. We could’ve scaled it down, but we found almost all travel-sized things (Bed Bath & Beyond!) for under $1 each.
ALSO: Don’t assume there will be stuff left over from your bathroom baskets. People get greedy with the damn things! I went into our bathroom right before our dinner was served, and the basket was EMPTY!