(Closed) RE: Do you ever think it’d be nice for your FI to take *your* last name?

posted 9 years ago in Names
Post # 3
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Newbee

We were JUST talking about this too..

BUT I told him we should create a new last name to incorporate both of our last names..and he denied me.  ha ha.  So, we’re both keeping our last names..(for now).

Post # 4
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

It’s a cute idea. I like my last name better than my fiance’s, but he’s pretty attached to his, too, which is completely fine. Neither of us feels the need to change our names. I know a man who did it because he wasn’t close to his own family at all, but loved his in-laws and wanted to feel like he belonged to their family. Although it did bring up the awkward situation of him keeping the new surname, even after he got divorced…

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My FI’s brother did it. It does happen yup.

I personally find it weird to call him by his wifes name…but to each their own I guess!

Post # 6
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Busy Beekeeper

I would love for FH to do it, but he refuses.  He doesn’t care if I keep my maiden name, so that’s the compromise.  We even played around with the idea of coming up with a new name, but I think keeping our ‘original’ names is better. 

Post # 7
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2018

I honestly don’t get the big deal about taking your husband’s name. It was special to me. His first wife didn’t, because she was in medical school, and he said it always seemed like she had one foot out the door. I didn’t want him to feel the same way about our relationship, so I planned from the start to change my name. So, when we got married, I took his name and I’m Kate MaidenName HusbandsName. It’s great for me.

Post # 8
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: June 2010

@HappiJoyce – I am SOOO trying convince my finace to do that too, he isnt budging yet but I still have 11 months left. He keeps whining about how hard it would be for 2 people to change there names, but I want to keep some of mine!

Post # 9
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2009

My FI’s last name is Ho.  Really.  My last name could be Ho.  I’m still trying to decide.

Post # 10
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

Mr. K and I always joke that if his parents weren’t around we would totally take my last name.  They would totally disown us!

Post # 11
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: April 2018 - The Grand Old House, Grand Cayman

wow, that’s a lot of "totallys" for two sentences!  totally!

Post # 12
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

manmbinki –

 I am so there with you! My fiances last name starts with an L and rhymes with Turkey! 

He REFUSES to take my last name, hates the idea of finding a mutual last name, and really wants me to take his. and i want to get that special feeling of being that close to him…but it feels like i am loosing a part of my 27 yr old identity. 

still dont know what I am going to do…

Post # 13
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2009

I certainly wouldn’t mind if society as a whole passed names on matrilinally!  In our case though since his name is just three letters long he often gets called by his first and last name.  Not to mention that in his profession (rodeo cowboy) your name means a lot and if people know you by it it’s not really something you want to change, much like having publications.  Of course, I think my last name is much cooler and so am reluctantly moving it to be my second middle name (as will he). 

Post # 14
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Blushing bee
  • Wedding: June 2009

I joked with my husband that we should create a new last name.  Since I LOVE CATS (word Mrs Kitten) and always wanted to be one and he idolized his grandpa whose last name was Tom-I suggested our last name could be TomCat.  He laughed but didn’t go for it.  We still refer to ourselves as the TomCats in jest.

I just offically changed my name yesterday.  I was really happy to get a new drivers license photo though!

Post # 15
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: August 2009

My Fiance and I discussed this–but we both have two common last names that end similarly so a combo wouldn’t work out. And hyphenating we both didn’t like. We have friends who both have really cool last names, so they both took the same last name Her Last Name His Last Name–but they have cool names. One of my professors and his wife did the combo thing. Unfortunately our names are not cool enough for that! He doesn’t care if I take his last name or not, but I am doing it (in part because i always knew i would get rid of my last name because to me it is a symbol of my father’s family and my dad didn’t raise me).

Post # 16
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: August 2009 - Bernardo Winery

Mr Frenchie and I joke about combining our names – they combine PERFECTLY, but his dad would be upset.

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