Post # 1
Just curious if there are any couples or you know of any couples that have been engaged, broke it off and then re-engaged.
My fiancé and I got engaged two years ago. We had some issues we had to work through and ended up calling off an already planned wedding. It was very public because a lot of our friends and family were looking forward to it. I ended up moving out, we separated for some time then went to counseling. We have finally worked through things and are stronger than ever but it feels so… unexciting, confusing and somehow shameful to be “re-engaged”. We are trying to replan our wedding and while I would love to share how this process is going, I feel so out of place because it’s confusing for everyone on the outside… We know what we have been through, how we feel about each other but keep feeling limited by a terrible past we desperately want to move away from.
Just looking for advice or some hope for wedding round two. Thanks 🙂
Post # 2
Reengaged: I haven’t been through this but was just curious if you considered eloping or having a smaller wedding. People will most likely be more supportive once you guys look more stable. I know that sounds shitty but it’s the truth. But it may take some time and I think it would be hard to have these feelings until the other people came around.
Post # 3
Yup! FI and I were engaged when we were much younger we broke up. After much time apart and getting older it’s so much better this time around. We didn’t set a date or anything the first time. Two years is awhile to be apart. People grow and change I wwouldn’t see anything wrong with you two being reengaged and planning again.Something small would definitely be nice. That’s what FI and I are doing.
Post # 4
- Wedding: February 2015 - Chapel on Base
I think congratulations are in order and try not to worry about what others think. Hopefully they will see it as a true love story. Congratulations!
Post # 5
Reengaged: Congratulations on your engagement!
I take the point of PPs that you could have a smaller wedding if you were more comfortable with that… but I think you should only go down this route if you really really want to for yourself.
If not, and you have an idea of the wedding you want – I say throw yourself 100% into it and go for it. There is absolutely nothing to be ashamed about and I’m sure you family and friends who know you best will be more than excited to celebrate with you.
You have a valid thought about some aspects being confusing to those on the outside – it’s hard to know exactly what people may think and although it doesn’t matter at the end of the day, sometimes it’s just nicer to avoid these issues when you can! Perhaps you could choose a select few people who you know well and only discuss the planning side of things with them.
Try not to feel bogged down by the past. It’s brought you to this point which sounds a lot happier, so it’s not all negative. Your wedding will be what you make of it, so embrace every little exciting aspect and make it your happiest experience together yet. Good luck!
Post # 6
Thanks for the comments/support/advice 🙂
We are exploring a smaller wedding. We meet with a wedding planner in a few weeks so I think I will take PP advice and focus on the positives, throw myself into it and enjoy the present.
really appreciate your replies 🙂
Post # 7
I agree withn PP 2 years is quite some time to grow up and figure things out. If you 2 are happy that’s all that matters. Congratulations!!
Post # 8
My high school sweetheart and I were engaged in college at ages 20 (me) and 21 (him). We met when we were 13 (so you can say we were junior high sweethearts as well) and we planned on getting married when we graduated from college.
But, looking back, we were not mature enough to handle being engaged. There were some issues with him partying way too much so we broke up.
We were apart for 7 years. In that time, I became engaged to another guy and he got his act together, finished school and even went to grad school. We started talking once my engagement ended, and low and behold, 11 months after we first started talking, we got married.
In my case, because we were engaged so young, I don’t think there was any confusion from our family and friends. They knew we had our problems and obviously needed that time apart to grow up.
It feels so much different this time. We are obviously a lot older (30 and 31) but we have that history too which is really cool. We had a smaller wedding (85 guests) but that’s what we wanted, not because we felt like we had to have something smaller.
Best of luck!
Post # 9
I know this comment is coming a little late but I had voice my opinion.
There is no shame in getting re-engaged! The fact that you two were mature enough to take a step back and work on your relationship and the come out even stronger is something to be proud of. Most couples either just assume these issues will resolve themselves or just give up and quit (break up) but you did neither, you worked on your relationship, stuck it out and really showed how commited you were to eachother. And I think your family and friends will see that and be proud.
Post # 10
Yup! *raises hand* ….It has happened to me as well. We were first engaged when I was about 24 and really shouldnt have been because our relationship was far from solid, it shouldnt have happened. We broke up and after a year got back together, which was a rough road but we knew we wanted to be together so we did the work. Now we are much more mature and each day things are so much better. October 18th, 2014 was the day he re-proposed and it was perfect!
Things will be just fine, your love for each other will shine through and everyone will see that and who isnt then thats too bad for them. Do what makes you happy, life is too short to have it any other way