Re-gifting shower gifts

posted 2 years ago in Etiquette
Post # 2
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Bee Keeper

You are allowed to do whatever you want with any gift once it is given to you, including give it to someone else.

Post # 3
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

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funinparadise28 :  One is always free to do what you want with any gift. There can be awkward situations though, so be prepared for that.

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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: September 2017 - Pearson Convention Centre

I have re gifted and I have re gifted and I don’t see a problem either way

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Bumble bee

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funinparadise28 :  now that’s awkward lol…. 

I have no issue with regifting unless it’s well…unusable to the recipient like something expired. I would also make sure it’s not obvious that it’s a regift lol…

Post # 9
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Bee Keeper

Well, your friend sounds like an ass for many reasons, but regifting isn’t one of them.

Generally, you don’t want to regift it back to the original giver and it could be considered uncouth to give it to someone who watched you open it in the first place (though I have done it…but it was something my friend who watched me open it expressed wanting one for herself and I knew it would be wasted on me).  But there is nothing wrong with regifting in general.

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Bee Keeper

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funinparadise28 :  Unless you specifically stated within your friend’s earshot ‘gee I wish I had some expired chocolates’ then this is tacky AF

I don’t mind re-gifting in general if it’s done thoughtfully rather than to be cheap or lazy. If I gifted you a Gordon Ramsey Panini Maker (I have one and love it, use it all the time) and you already have a panini maker or simply won’t make use of one, then by all means give it to your friend for her shower or birthday – IF you genuinely think it’s something she’d like. After all, it’s a perfectly good brand new panini maker. someone else might love But if you had some piece of crap sitting around, ohhh, let’s say….some expired chocolates, then gifting these to your friend just to save a buck or a trip to the mall is a no-no. 

Post # 13
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Honey Beekeeper
  • Wedding: November 1999

I think regifting is awkward in general.  If the gift is expired or broken though, I think that’s very inappropriate and tacky. 

Post # 14
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Busy Beekeeper

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funinparadise28 :  I have no problem with regifting, it’s just important that the giftee either knows about it (as when my cousins gave me their old baby furniture) or wasn’t involved in the original gifting. 

Incidentally, someone gave me a distinctly girly outfit at my work baby shower when baby was an unknown.  After having a boy, I gave it to another coworker whose great-granddaughter was on the way and a girl.  She had it in her hand when we went to original coworker’s office to discuss something and I felt like such a dick.  I hadn’t even thought about it and the gifter said something.  Embarrassing all around.  Careful who you gift to!

And expired chocolates?  That is so lazy.  Ugh

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