(Closed) Re: out there names – great article related to this topic!

posted 6 years ago in Babies
Post # 3
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

This is such a relevant topic for me. I live in South Africa, where the sensitivity around these issues is extremely high as you can imagine. I’m part of the generation that experienced the abolition of apartheid when I was very young. As a result, the people of my generation and younger are all really just trying to move past it. The older generations still harbour a lot of understandable resentment, but I know my peers and I roll our eyes when every single thing becomes a racism issue. Sure, there are people who have a mean spirited motive behind something like this, but it’s so counter-productive to analyse every joke and story to find the bigotry behind it, and to walk on eggshells for fear of offending. Some of my friends cannot pronounce my name, and I can’t pronounce theirs, but we laugh and give each other silly nicknames. When there is only one person of a certain race in the conversation we call them “Token” (and this goes for everyone of every race). Sometimes you just have to stop and get over yourself a bit in order to move forward.

Post # 5
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: November 2013

Yeah, there is plenty of injustice across the world. We must never forget it, but let go of the hate, you know? That’s why Nelson Mandela is such a great man. He’s an example of someone who remembers the past, but doesn’t hold on to the hate. I could start a blog saying “Most of these names are girl’s names. You don’t even have to say it’s a girl, or that she was named by a woman, because it is implied. Therefore this is just another way for men to belittle women.” We could spin it that way, but we won’t because we are not interested in finding ways to stir up hate. I’m sure there could be a sexist group of men on the internet with comments like this, but why should we give power to their hate? The other thread was not meant to be hateful, so it’s a bit ridiculous to try make everyone feel bad about it and start worrying about being perceived as bigots.

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