(Closed) Re-setting engagement ring

posted 4 years ago in Rings
Post # 2
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I’m thinking this is your expenses now unless he offers to cover it. I would definitely talk to him about it before doing anything. 

Post # 3
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Bee Keeper

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napa2015 :  we chose to pick a brand new setting over resetting. But we’ve been saving for it and always knew the ring he proposed with was a temp ring until we could afford an upgrade. I would talk to your husband first before making any major decision on resetting a ring 

Post # 4
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: September 2008

Check with him first. I asked DH after 7 years of marriage how he’d feel about it and he got surprisingly upset. So no upgrades for me.

Post # 5
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Newbee

Of course it’s okay, you make your own rules when it comes to things like this! From a sentimentality standpoint you would be keeping the stone he proposed with, so it will still be very special, the metal shank holding it doesn’t really have quite as much significance. Obviously you need to have a chat with your husband about it, maybe propose the idea of upgrading your setting for your 5th wedding anniversary and start putting aside a little money every month in the meantime. We grow and change over our lifetime, that includes our personal style and taste, there’s nothing wrong with that. 

I upgraded my setting last year, I had fun picking it out together with my husband and he took me away for the weekend on our “engagement anniversary” and did a little re-proposal with the new ring. 

Post # 6
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: December 2011

I’m with 

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pinkcorsage on this and so is my husband. He was totally okay with me getting a 2nd / 3rd / 4th ring and resetting any other ring besides the original one he proposed with. So I have my original ER in a jewelry box and I have a couple other rings that I have gotten that I wear way more than the original ER. 

If your husband is ok with you resetting it, then definitely go for it! Or perhaps you can just get a second ring to wear as aan anniversary ring and wear them alternatively?

Post # 7
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Busy bee

I just re-set mine so I think it’s ok! As long as he is on board. So talk to him! If he says no, and you don’t mind an “airline” halo would you consider something like this? It’s an enhancer. I know nothing about this Etsy shop but I’m sure any jeweler could make a similar ring so that you don’t actually change the ring if he is uncomfortable with it, but you can add to it occasionally. Just a thought. Not sure how it would look in reality but thought it was an interesting option. 

 

Post # 8
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Bumble bee

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sparklebeeesq :  that’s a very cool idea! I’ve never seen an enhancer like that!! I’ve seen some that have two sides that make a half halo since the engagement ring band would still show, but this option looks so much nicer!

Post # 9
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Busy bee

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bellabee16 :  right? I saw it accidentally at some point and thought it was a pretty cool idea. I bet if its custom made they could lessen the airline space a bit as well to match the size of the specific stone. I wish I could see it in person or at least a picture on a real ring. 

Post # 10
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014 - victoria educational gardens

I agree with the other bees. As long as your hubby is ok with it, go for it! I reset my original e-ring but our intention was to buy me a diamond later on when we had more money to spend since we were buying a house at the time of our engagement. 

Post # 11
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Worker bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

I just posted something similar above . 2 years married, i picked out the ring and just didn’t love it. Hubby didn’t care because Tacori has a great trade in program so it didn’t cost too much to reset. But I’m also very much into jewelry so he totally understood my reset obsession.  If he’s ok with it I say go for it. 

Post # 12
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: June 2017

I think it’s fine as long as your husband is fine with it. I know some men who would get upset, but mine didn’t care. I’m getting mine redesigned right now…but it’s also because I have two kids and my rings haven’t fit in 3 years. Great excuse to get them redone. 

Post # 13
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

I would just talk to your DH and see what he thinks.  If it will cause tension, then I would prob not do it.  But when I wanted to upgrade, my DH was all for it, and we saved up together, and then created my new ring together.  🙂  Chances are he will understand and support you.  

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