Post # 1
So this is a big complaining vent….you were warned…
So 19 weeks down…
Sigh, my pregnancy is really, really, getting me down. I the past month I have experienced….
Crippling exhaustion that left me weeping on the couch unable to get up for days…turns out I was anemic…got on extra iron felt better..then…
I started having horrid headaches…from high Bridal Party…which went away almost as mysteriously as it started..
Throughout the entire pregnancy I keep experiencing UTI like symptoms but never have a uti…if I don’t drink close to 90oz of water a day I experience extreme burning pains like a uti. Need I mention I am not a big drinker, I just don’t drink much haven’t my whole life and I’ve never had a problem. Now drinking water has to be my job or I have constant pain.
I have no appetite I have to force myself to eat anything and now..
I’m having heart palpultations…they started last night at our sort of gender reveal and have not stopped. My midwife did not seem very alarmed about them, and I’ve read in many places they are very common during pregnancy, but my word they are bothersome. The most they have stopped is for maybe 20 minutes, then they come right back.
I’m very close to emotionally breaking down. I’ve been very healthy my entire life and now I haven’t had one full 24 hour span where I didn’t feel like crap in one way or another in months. I honestly find myself wondering at times if I will survive this. I feel like I’m being killed slowly all I want to do is feel like I can function at a minimal level and I just don’t everything is a struggle and it’s all I can do not to break down completely.
I know I have so much to be thankful for, but it’s getting harder and harder to feel positive….
Post # 3
I think you need to find a doctor, speak to your OBGYN if you had one or a general practitioner about this. It doesn’t seem like your midwife is taking your complaints seriously.
And I hope you take this well but maybe you should talk to a therapist? Some women become depressed or excessively anxious during pregnancy and need treatment.
Post # 4
@beekiss: I have a back up OB he knows about all these things as well. Honestly my midwife has been more proactive about everything I’ve mentioned but she just didn’t seem concerned about the palpulatations.
As far as depression, I really don’t think it’s that 99.9% of the time I feel fine emtionally but today I am just really down about feeling so crappy all the time, and it is getting worrisome at this point. I’d be fine with talking to someone sbout it, but I’m not ready to jump or anything lol I’m just getting to a point of frustration about it all.
Post # 5
@ames12708: Oh no, I don’t have anything to say that can help you, but I’m sorry you’re having a hard time. I hope that you start feeling better soon.
Post # 6
@ames12708: Ugh. That sounds AWFUL! I hope you feel better soon!
Post # 7
It might help you to remember that you’re not *sick*, you’re pregnant. You’re still a healthy person who is just going through normal weird pregnancy symptoms. The more you fight it the worse it makes you feel mentally, just relax and accept it as part of what you have to do to grow another human. 🙂 You’re almost halfway there so if you’ve made it this far you can make it to the end!!!
Post # 8
Thanks ladies =]
@Equine_Breeder: Actually that makes a lot of sense, I do keep feeling in my mind like I’m sick or something is really wrong with me even though logically I know I’m pregnant and it makes things work differently. Hearing it from someone else does help though =] thanks
Post # 9
So I just wanted to update and say that I am feeling much more positive today first off my heart is not palpultating anymore maybe just one funny beat every hour or so. This is why my midwife wasn’t alarmed bc for starters she dealt with many many moms and also she knows that I have anxiety about pregnancy bc of a large history of loss in my family I associate pregnancy more with loss than anything else bc that’s been my life experience. So getting all excited about it on her part does not help me out at all.
And also yesterday was rainy stormy yucky here and the weather really does effect my moods so it kind of magnified that down feeling I was having.
Anyway thanks for all the support I’m sure this won’t be the last pep talk I need but I’m half way there!! =]
Post # 10
@ames12708: hey =) i have occasional negative days and i think it does really help to vent occasionally
pregnancy can be tough! and it might not be an illness but at times… it feels like one, an illness with no cure but time haha. i find it makes it worse when people ask excitedly how the pregnancy is going, and then look disappointed if the answer is anything other than sunshine and rainbows
something that you really emjoy and that makes you feel good as a treat. for me, every i have started to have prenatal massage days followed by trying a new restaurant with a friend (im going today for the 2nd time!). it feels good, relaxes me and reminds me that life is as much about me and my happiness as it is about “The Baby” (capital letters since we dont know the gender yet)
Post # 11
Remember, you’re not sick — you’re pregnant! Our bodies think that a pregnancy is a parasite in the beginning… which is why we are so sick. It’s like the body is trying to fight it off for us. Hang in there! You’ll get through it. But I agree with a few previous posters. Your pregnancy might become high-risk… especially due to high Bridal Party (if that comes back). Find an OBGYN and your midwife can still assist — but I think you should be monitored by a doctor.
Post # 12
@amw511s: I suggest you read my previous posts I have an OB. So I am being monitored by a doctor I see my midwife 2x a month and my ob once a month. All involved know it could become high risk. My midwife is the one who got me to the OB she even goes with me to my appointments if I ask her to. She is by no means taking my symptoms lightly and because this was a long weekend my OB hasn’t bothered to even speak with either of us about if he wants to see me. She on the other hand checks on me multiple times a day.
But I have felt great today and I needed that
Post # 13
@ames12708: Geez — forget I even said anything. May I “suggest” that you be more gracious when people try to offer advice and help when you ask for it?
Post # 14
@amw511s: I’m sorry but it’s hard not to take offense to someone essentially you you don’t know what you’re doing. Also I didn’t ask for advice at any point it was just a vent but again sorry I offended you but I was also offended.
You said a lot of nice and helpful things in your comment, but please understand often people can be very Judgmental of women who choose midwives and I felt that’s what was happening but again I’m sorry I’m pregnant and frustrated.
Post # 15
Since it has been so difficult for you to drink so much water, could you try having all natural ice pops, watermelon, lightly flavored water (think sliced fruit or lemon in it), or having low sodium soups as part of your meals? These things would help you get the water you need without you feeling like you need to constantly be drinking. Good luck with the final 21 weeks, almost halfway there!
Post # 16
- Wedding: June 2013 - His grandmother's backyard
@ames12708: I’m only 7w6d and I’ve been having heart palpitations too! I haven’t called the doc yet, but if they keep up at this pace I might – even if all they’re going to say is “its ok”