(Closed) Reaction…. Ouch

posted 6 years ago in Rings
Post # 16
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

Check pawn shops! I paid 1/3rd of what my ring is worth. 

Post # 17
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Busy bee

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forgotusername:  OP said she wouldn’t necessarily go with Walmart. I think she just likes the style. 

Post # 18
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

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bnm97:  I have to agree with PP, stay away from Wal-Mart and check out pawnshop or antique stores.  For my 25th SO gave me a beautiful 1930’s Ceylon sapphire set in platinum with diamonds and it was only $500. You will get better quality and a much more unique piece

Post # 19
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Blushing bee

I think jewelry is way overpriced too but I agree with your shock at your honey’s reaction…my sweetie went with me to the jeweler and we were discussing my 1+ carat OEC loose diamond and he as how much it cost, about $500?  I chuckled and told him he wasn’t even close.  He was very surprised.  😁

Post # 20
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Blushing bee

Oh I wanted to add that I bought this beauty from Blue Nile for $200! 

Post # 21
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

reality bites.

I’m still in shock how different the averages are in comparison to geography. 

I have a more than average one here, but I’d be a peasant in LA, lol

Post # 22
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: April 2015

An old guy friend of mine years ago didn’t even realise you needed an engagement ring! I was oohing over some in a jewellers window and he couldn’t believe he had to buy a girl and engagement ring as well as a wedding ring! He’s happily married now and the girl did get an Engagement Ring thankfully! A lot of men do not understand or get the whole ring thing. 

Post # 23
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

You get what you pay for.  $100 is not going to get you a ring that lasts a lifetime.  I agree with the moissy suggestion.  The new F1 moissy is super white and beautiful.  🙂  I would go that route and even get a solitaire for now.  You could always get a new setting for an anniversary or something, when budget allows.

Post # 24
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2017

I would recommend checking out moissaniteco sale section. Lots of pretty rings there well under 1k which is super reasonable imo and lots of bees got their engagement rings from there and are very happy. 

If you say money is not an issue, then I sincerely hope he is willing to shell out more than what he pays for his guns to get you a ring you will be happy wearing your whole life and the quality won’t be an issue down the line. 

Post # 25
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Wannabee
  • Wedding: November 2016

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Itsnotme:  My fiance was similar, he didn’t see the point of two rings and still thinks it’s kind of silly, lol.  He also had the sticker shock issue, but I couldn’t fault him for that as he’d never bought jewelry before.

Post # 26
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Bee Keeper

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bnm97:  Reading your opening post, I really just wanted to reach through my computer screen and give you a big hug. (Which probably sounds totally creepy, but I mean it in a nice and supportive way.)

I think a lot of us have “been there” with having to explain to our significant others how much engagement and wedding jewelry (or just any jewelry, really) can cost, as well as why it’s worth the expense to us or important to us. I know rings are just “things”, and they shouldn’t matter. But they do matter.

These are very emotional feelings, and they can be hard to explain to another person who just doesn’t get it. Your BF is OK with paying $500-$600 for a gun because that’s his hobby and something that has a lot of importance and meaning to him. At this point, jewelry is not important to him, and he’s probably never thought much about jewelry in general. It makes sense that he wouldn’t realize how much things can cost. But it also makes sense that you felt a bit hurt by his reaction.

Hopefully, he can see that this is important to you so that you guys can discuss it more in the future and he can get over his sticker shock a little bit. I know how hurtful it can be when something is important to you and the person you love treats it like it’s “nothing” or like you’re being silly or unreasonable. I’ve definitely been there!

I think looking at pawn shops, as PPs mentioned, is a great idea. There are also different online jewelry dealers who sell antique/vintage/used jewelry. (I hate the term “used”, as it seems to indicate the item is somehow not as good or nice, which isn’t true.) Also, you might want to check out Gemvara (gemvara.com). They have a pretty decent selection of settings and gemstones. I’ve purchased several pieces from them, and I’ve always been happy with the finished item.

Post # 27
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Worker bee

Rings in Europe are even more expensive; there is no way one can buy 1 ct diamond for under 5000 euro…

Post # 28
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Newbee

“I thought it was normal to know they are minimum around 1k for a cheap one.”

$1000 minimum for a CHEAP engagement ring? That’s not true at all. Almost everyone I know in real life who has an engagement ring got theirs for well under $1000 — and we’re talking diamond solitaires, sapphires, rubies, etc. (i.e. not just “cheap” stones).

I would say a fairly inexpensive engagement ring is about $500 and below. That’s still expensive for a single piece of jewellery, but it’s pretty reasonable for the lifetime wear that an e-ring will get.

However, the prices at jewellery stores are ridiculously marked up. Go to any pawnshop and you’ll see. I got my 14k white gold seven-diamond wedding band for $150 from a pawnshop… and yet we couldn’t even find a plain white-gold band for that price in a jewellery store! My husband was quoted SIX HUNDRED DOLLARS for a plain white-gold 3mm wedding band in one store we went to. 

I also got a diamond ring from eBay not too long ago. It has a 0.25ct center diamond and four diamond baguettes, two on each side of the center stone. The diamonds are immaculate and bright sparkly white, and the 14k white gold setting was polished up to look brand new before the seller sent it to me. It’s not my engagement ring (because I already had one), but it could easily be someone’s e-ring… and yet I only paid $228 for it.

Don’t fall for the hype and what you’re “supposed to” pay. If you get creative, you can find beautiful rings for a fraction of the price you would pay in a brick-and-mortar jewellery store — even for something brand new.

Post # 29
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

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bnm97:  mine did too… To be honest he was thinking £900 and having been on wedding bee I see the lovely alternatives you can get for that some truly gorgeous ones. But I truly wanted a certain style and diamonds and have never had any form of expensive jewellery so he said well I would have to wait over a year to save which upset me as I knew he had good savings and I said couldn’t you use those and then transfer monthly money back into your savings- he was not having it and was not impressed which I see now but then 3 weeks later having seen my disappointment he went and used his savings and got me a beautiful ring! Now a year on we are marrying next week and he has almost put all the money back in savings for the ring 🙂 he says he feels such pride that he managed to get me this ring and it means as much to him as it does me and loves my smile when I look at it. 

Post # 30
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Buzzing bee

Diamond bistro or moissanite.com’s sale section?

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