(Closed) Reactions to baby names… ugh

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Post # 46
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Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2017

You can’t please everyone!

I didnt find out what I was having for either of my pregnancies but I would purposely tell people my name picks because I wanted to know their honest opinion. No one will say (to you) that they don’t like your kids name once they are born. I really wanted to name my first born Conan if it was a boy. Because of the barbarian? Yes. The only reason why I didn’t was because my now ex vetoed it hard. We picked Deklan and my mom HATED it. I kind of think it’s funny she hated the name so much because she adores my son. 

With my second my fiancé didn’t want me to share our name choices because when we were talking hypothetically about baby names, before we were even pregnant, we told his mom we like the name Foster. She hated it and my fiancé was really bothered by her reaction. Our top baby names (that we agreed on) was Diem for a girl and Keaton for a boy. We had a boy and people loved the name Keaton (or so they said) but my mom and Future Mother-In-Law hated Diem when we told them what we would have named the baby if it was a girl. Again my fiancé was bothered knowing this because we might have used that name in the future if we have a girl. But who cares!!! We love the name and maybe our parents might actually hate the name Keaton but they would never tell us now.

If you really want people’s honest opinion tell them your name choices but be prepared for people to tear it apart for whatever reason. OR keep your name choices secret and then no one would say they hate the name (at least to your face). 

Even though I’m some random on the Internet I love your name choices but really no ones opinion should matter but yours and your husbands! 

Post # 47
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

People can be jerks, my Mother-In-Law was a B when she heard what we planned to name our daughter. Almost everyone seemed to have a complaint so we stopped telling people and said “we will decide when she arrives.” After she was born and we named her what we wanted everyone changed their tune and said, “oh what an adorable name, it’s perfect!” 🙄 Yeah ok not what you said before but whatever. As long as you love the name and you think it is something your child will like into adulthood that’s what matters. 

Post # 48
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2016

I got a lot of crap for loving the name Cecil (cece for nickname) for a girl. It’s more commonly known as a boy’s name but in the early 1900’s-1920’s a small percentage of girls were given it too. And if we can have unisex names like Jesse or Alex then why not. But, eh, I still love it so we will see.

Like many said though, just don’t share and there will be no awkward conversations to be had. 

Post # 49
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2016

I’m pregnant and have a name chosen. We’ve told the majority of our family and freinds the name we chose. It may not be everyones favorite name but most everyone has at least pretended to like it. Except for my one friend: “No, you cannot name her that, thats terrible, she will be teased, that name is awful.” I was so hurt! You are my friend, the least you can do it pretend to like the name I have chosen for my child! Honestly, I havn’t talked to her since becuase now when I think of her all I can think of are those rude comments and how they still hurt.

Post # 50
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Helper bee

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kharpe6 :  I think those are lovely names. I didn’t immediately think of any shows or whatnot for your second name. I did think of GoT for Tyrion but honestly both are great names no matter what random correlation somebody thinks up. Somebody somewhere has used most any name you can think of in some TV show, movie, book, etc. 

 

I also think the only time you can have a rude reaction to someone’s potential baby names would be if they literally wanted to name their kid Fartface. If one of my friends wanted to name their kid Arsch I would question it, but Tyrion or Bartholomew? Jeez. 

Post # 51
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: June 2014

How do you pronounce Tyrion? I don’t watch GOT. 

If you want him to be called Ollie, I would just call him Ollie from the beginning. Introduce him to everyone as Ollie immediately. 

Post # 52
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Busy bee
  • Wedding: July 2011

People are so stupid.  My sister’s in-laws HATED her choice for her daughter’s name – Stella.  A totally nice name right?  They wouldn’t let her hear the end of it.  Not that she cared – she obviously named her Stella anyway.  Next baby?  She chose the name Poppy.  Our step-mom wouldn’t stop talking about how much she hated it.  I shut her up by reminding her that her son had named his son Kash, FFS.

Post # 53
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

personally i like tyrion alexandar over the other one. But im bias, i love traditional names. 

for us when we finally do get to that point (currently TTC) we have austin jacob for a boy as a definite. 

havent come up with a definite girls name but i LOVE the name Savannah. 

 

ive heard quite a few interesting ones over the years. Celebs tend to pick the wackiest though. 

Post # 55
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Sugar bee
  • Wedding: May 2016

I think it is best to just keep the names to yourself. In my own experience, no matter what the name is, for some reason, people feel the need to force their own opinion on you, instead of just being happy for you. For me it was very stressful, because my mother hated al the names we chose for our kids and didn’t mind telling us (both names are in the top 100 give or take a few numbers so they are not uncommon). The most extreme of this I watched my brother go through when he and his wife announced they planned to name their son “Christopher.” I don’t think it gets any more basic than that, but people still interjected that it should be changed. 

FWIW I really like both names you have chosen. I don’t personally associate them with any race. Yes, there is a GoT reference in Tyrion, but he will not grow up with anyone who will get the referene, and I kinda doubt it will still be streaming 20 years from now. 

Post # 56
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

I knew a guy named Jorel, which I know is Superman’s father, Jor-El. But no one else seemed to get it. Superman is a very popular story in American pop culture. 

By the time Tyrion is older, the GOT references might be played out. Nowadays there are guys named Luke, but no one immediately assumes he was named after Luke Skywalker.

Post # 57
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Honey bee
  • Wedding: February 2009

This is exactly why I never tell anyone the name until the baby is born.  Because no one would ever question the name with a real baby sitting in front of them.  And FWIW, people are this opinionated over all aspects of parenting, the names are just the start of things where people think they have the right to an opinion and tell you all about what they think.  

Post # 58
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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DanaWeddingGuest :  Luke was a commonly established name before Star Wars came out though. 

If you google Luke, the references you get are all related to the Bible, whereas if you google Tyrion you clearly get GoT references.

Just saying, the comparison isn’t really valid when you are comparing a name with a rich history that just so happened to have a huge pop culture hit vs a name that was established through a huge pop culture hit.

Post # 59
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Helper bee

This is why my SO and I won’t be telling his father or his grandmother our future kids names until they are born. It doesn’t matter what we choose, they’ll have something negative to say. Just the kind of people they are.

Post # 60
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: September 2011

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kharpe6 :  I have dealt with this, and it did make us rethink our name choices. I think the cries of “please pick a more professional name” that were expressed when we were talking about this with friends came from good intentions, but it was offensive as all hell when we heard it!

We ended up doing more research, and people are heavily discriminated with their names when they are hired for jobs and the like. Unfortunately, more “WASPy” sounding names are a significant advantage when it comes to getting hired.

DH and I talked about it, and decided to have a more conventional name for our kids’ first name (we’re thinking Fiona for a girl and Brian for a boy) and then give them two middle names that relate to our cultures. We think that this will be the best of all worlds.

I know that’s not the same conclusion you and your DH came to, and I’m not trying to say that it’s the right decision for everyone, but this is what we decided. Only you can decide what the right decision for your family is and what to name your kids. No one else should be doing that for you.

P.S. Also I think Bartholomew is a really established and a commonly known name. It’s not a strange choice at all!

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