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posted 2 years ago in Emotional
Post # 2
293 posts
Helper bee
  • Wedding: October 2015

They owned up and apologized. There was likely some alcohol involved and it was a high stress day for them. I’d move on. 

Post # 3
9042 posts
Buzzing Beekeeper

Do I think the bride and groom were wrong for yelling at you and your husband? Sure do. 

But really? Who leans like that on a $400,000 rental car? That was pretty careless of your husband to do. It didn’t deserve the yelling but it is still a douchey thing to do to a stressed and tired bride and groom.

Post # 4
733 posts
Busy bee

They already apologized and explained, so I’m not exactly sure what you’re looking to accomplish by bringing it up again. I mean, it was a $400,000 car… He shouldn’t have been leaning on it to begin with, and regardless how the bride handled it, it was her wedding day so adding drama to a good memory does nobody any good. 

They apologized, let it go.

Post # 5
120 posts
Blushing bee

I agree that the bride has an overreaction to yelling at your husband for the car. But I think you refusing to accept their apology on such an important (and stressful!) day for the couple, make your response equally as immature. 

I think you need to get over it, and not hold any grudges. 

Post # 6
579 posts
Busy bee
  • Wedding: May 2015

The fact that you and your husband were so helpful to the couple with wedding prep would not have been front of mind in a moment of stress/anger. Have you ever blown something out of proportion and then had to apologize, OP? When I lose my temper about inconsquential things with my husband, I’m not thinking about how helpful and thoughtful he is 99.9% of the time… I think we’ve all had that experience of tunnel vision at the end of a long, stressful day. I would absolutely let this go. 

Post # 7
4559 posts
Honey bee

Well right now you are the biggest perpetrator of the drama.

Sounds like two people who had a long, emotional day were stressed about having an expensive car they don’t own (and could have potential employment implications if they do damage it).  They let their emotions get the best of them and over reacted.  Was that wrong?   For sure. 

But then you decided to double down on drama by being “stubborn” and then not accept what sounded like a sincere apology.  You had your opportunity to say you were hurt and then accept their apology (or at least acknowledge it) and instead you decided to be rude and ignore their apology and not even acknowledge it and drag this drama out even longer.   You want a double apology?  Their first born?  They already apologized and you ignored it.  Ball is in your court now.

Personally, I’m not sure why you NEED them to know you are still hurt unless it is for more drama and attention.  They probably already figured it based on all of the events that transpired that night which is why they apologized in the morning.  So I guess from here I would do some self-reflection on why you feel the need to be so stubborn and have the last word and can’t accept apologies when they are given.  Then move on.  If you are really incapable of that, then when they get back say something like “I’m sorry I didn’t accept your apology sooner – I was hurt and still processing my feelings.  I do accept your apology and would like to move on to happier things.  How was the honeymoon?”

Post # 8
3446 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: April 2017 - City, State

If I rented a nearly half million dollar car, you best believe I will correct anyone who even breathes in it wrong. What if your husband had scratched it? And why did he continue to lean on it after she told him to get off? I don’t think they should have yelled at you guys about it but they did apologize. If you want to stay mad about it you can, but beyond apologizing there is nothing they can do. 

Post # 9
11617 posts
Sugar Beekeeper
  • Wedding: June 2015

It could be this was the last straw of all of the issues you had with her throughout her wedding. So maybe your feelings were bottled up and came out too strongly in reaction to this situation.

Cuz yeah, he shouldn’t have leaned on a $400,000 rental the groom got through his work. Yikes. And they shouldn’t have screamed. Wth. But they apologized.

why did your husband think you should apologize to the bride? It was wrong of you not to at that point as well, esp because it was her wedding night. 

It sounds like a lot of built up resentment, a lot of extra work and time on her wedding when you were already upset over not being asked to be MOh, and maybe exhaustion topped with alcohol made a combustible evening. 

Post # 10
1298 posts
Bumble bee

I would not bring it up. They owned up to their behavior and apologized. I have to imagine they are aware that what they did was hurtful. I can’t see any good coming of rehashing the situation 

Post # 12
2430 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: NJ

They are the kinds who flip now and think later. Give them a chance to redeem themselves. Don’t keep lingering on this one incident though. It was unfortunate but its over. 

If people are that stressed out over a Rolls, they shouldn’t have one even for a day. Rolls aren’t fragile and they can be leaned on without a problem. She moved the car to the street? Where anybody could crash into it? She isn’t too smart, and doesn’t think.

Post # 13
1846 posts
Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: July 2015

I think the bride may have been a little aggressive, but I also think the problem would have stopped if your husband just moved when first asked.  If someone tells me not to touch something of theirs, I don’t touch it.  There is no need to argue with them or make them explain, even if they sound crazy.  It is their stuff.  Were people perhaps a little bit drunk at this point in the evening?  This story sounds like everyone’s reaction time was a little slow and everyone’s level of emotional response to the situation was a little high.  I suppose it could also have just been stress as you pointed out.  It is too bad this had to mess up the end of a nice day that many people put a lot of work into.  I would personally try to forget it ever happened, if I were you.  I don’t think this is something that is worth ending a friendship over.

Post # 15
1406 posts
Bumble bee
  • Wedding: March 2017

I think it was pretty wrong of both of them to treat you that way, doesn’t matter if alcohol was involved or if they were stressed. Doesn’t give anyone the right to treat someone crappy, especially since you and your husband were both very helpful to them.

Regardless, I probably wouldn’t bring it up again to them. I’m sure they feel bad if they have apologized already. Maybe get some space from them for a bit, give it a few weeks and see if you still feel hurt. They were rude yeah but this doesn’t sound like a friendship ending event unless they regularly act like this to you, and in that case why are y’all even friends?

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