Post # 136
I would be upset in your situation as well – they should not have reacted in the way they did…BUT I can also see why they were upset. Most people do not understand how easy it is to damage the paint on a car, especially if it’s a high end car with an expensive paint job, or an older car with original paint. If there had been any dust on the car(which most likely if it had been outside all night, there was), even the slightest rub against it with the wrong material (or buttons on a shirt since you said the front of his body was touching the car) can scratch the clear coat (which most people cannot see – but someone that spends $400k on a car probably would). The bride and groom were probably trying to respect the wishes of whoever owned the car, because the owner is probably very anal about anyone touching his/her car. This is why if you’ve ever been to a car show, all of the nice cars will have signs that say DO NOT TOUCH in big bold underlined letters, and they absolutely mean do not touch, in any way, with any part of your body, no matter how careful you are being.
This is just some insight from a girl who comes from a family of car guys, and married into another family of car guys. My husband does not like people touching his cars, and would have probably said something to your husband as well if it had been him (though he would have went about it in a very different way).
ETA: in response to those saying they had insurance on the car so if something happened it could be fixed with insurance – it doens’t always work out that way. Say this car was an all original classic car, with original paint (which it very well could have been). Someone leans on the car, puts a scratch in their paint from their belt or ziiper or a button… sure, you can take it to a body shop and get the scratch fixed. But what happens along with that? Oh yeah, the all original car no longer has original paint, which will substantially decrease the value of the car. The $400k car is now a $300k car because of one tiny little scratch that made it no longer a completely all original car.
Post # 137
So OP, what did the bride say when she yelled initially? People don’t always take time to be polite when potential damage or injury is imminent. There’s a difference between “Get off the car!” and you #%^^* ing #%%* get off the #%%* car, what the ##%^* is wrong with you?!” Which one was it?
I would not take the latter kindly or TBH, perhaps at all. Regardless, Fiance should have moved instantly and you should never have defended the passive aggressive way he handled things in the moment.
Whatever happens moving forward in the relationship, I would apologize for your part in all this.