- 6 years ago
- Wedding: September 2011
I’ve asked a dear friend to do the one and only reading at our non-religious ceremony. She says she’s excited and flattered, but she is also a bit concerned that she’s travelling back from another event, landing about 2 hours before the wedding. She says she understands if we want to ask someone else, and that come hell or high water she WILL be at the wedding, even if she and her SO have to change into their fancy clothes on the plane (and I believe this— if that plane flies, she will be on it, and if she has to stand on one foot in the nasty airplane lav to get into her stockings, I can absolutely visualize her doing just that)
I’m really conflicted on what to do! On one hand, the venue is only about 15 minutes from the airport where she’s landing, and it’s a very easy airport to navigate— you can be in your car 10 minutes after landing if you’re not checking a bag. So that gives a cushion of about 90 minutes’ delay where they could still make the ceremony. I fly a LOT (68 flights last year) and I can count on one hand the number of times I was delayed getting home by more than 90 minutes in the last 5 years. On the other hand, I know it happens, and my friend would have zero control over any delays; it’s up to the airlines, the ATC and the weather gods.
I really want this specific friend to have a role in our wedding; she’s been a really good friend to my Mr and I both, and most of our other friends (or at least the ones who wouldn’t be petrified to speak in public) are either “his” friends or “my” friends. Even though the social circles totally overlap these days, there’s very few friends we consider to be equally his and mine. Plus she is highly creative and frighteningly smart, so I know she’d be able to work with us to find a unique, fun, meaningful reading. But it the only reading for the wedding!
Would you keep your fingers crossed and pray that Delta doesn’t do her wrong; ask someone else to do it; or maybe add a second reading so that if Delta does let us down, there’s at least something to break up all the boilerplate wedding stuff?
Asking her to fly home earlier is not an option— personally I am kind of surprised that she and her SO picked such a late flight on the day of a wedding but I know they are giving up 2 days at an event they have been looking forward to all year, and would imagine price was a bit of a factor in booking the flights. I would feel like the wicked witch of the east if I told her to change the flight times!
Asking someone else to be a backup is also not an option because I think that’s like telling someone “you’re second best.” Either we ask someone else to do it, or we just let her do it.
And my Fi doesn’t feel too keen on readings in general, let alone two of them, but if my best choice is to add a second just in case we need to cancel one at the last minute, I can probably talk him into it.
What say you?
PS I am not bothered that, if we stick with our first choice reader, she won’t be at the rehearsal. She’s a big girl. She can figure out how to practice her reading at her leisure and listen to the officiant’s cue to come and deliver it.