- 6 years ago
- Wedding: April 2014
I’m working oin developing what can be read at our wedding. Any feedback would be nice for what I have preoared. I know sure I want some scientific article on love or romance because my fiance and I are very scientifically inclined as well as a Shel Silverstein poem to be read by my daughter. If anyone has any other readings they’d like to suggest please comment!
The first is an excerpt from Time Magazine:
Human beings make a terrible fuss about a lot of things but none more than romance. Eating and drinking are just as important for keeping the species going–more so actually, since a celibate person can at least continue living but a starving person can’t. Yet while we may build whole institutions around the simple ritual of eating, it never turns us flat-out nuts. Romance does.
“People compose poetry, novels, sitcoms for love. They live for love, die for love, kill for love. It can be stronger than the drive to stay alive.”
On its good days (and love has a lot of them), all this seems to make perfect sense.
Calling something like love mundane, of course, is true only as far as it goes. Survival of a species is a ruthless and reductionist matter, but if staying alive were truly all it was about, might we not have arrived at ways to do it without joy–as we could have developed language without literature, rhythm without song, movement without dance? Romance may be nothing more than reproductive filigree, a bit of decoration that makes us want to perpetuate the species and ensures that we do it right. But nothing could convince a person in love that there isn’t something more at work–and the fact is, none of us would want to be convinced. That’s a nut science may never fully crack.
The next is either Hug O’ War by Shel Silverstein or My Rules:
I will not play at tug o’ war
I’d rather play at hug o’ war
Where everyone hugs
instead of tugs,
where everyone giggles
and rolls on the rug,
where everyone kisses,
and everyone grins,
and everyone cuddles,
and everyone wins.
And this last one:
If you want to marry me, here’s what you’ll have to do:
You must learn how to make a perfect chicken-dumpling stew.
And you must sew my holey socks,
And soothe my troubled mind,
And develop the knack for scratching my back,
And keep my shoes spotlessly shined.
And while I rest you must rake up the leaves,
And when it is hailing and snowing
You must shovel the walk…and be still when I talk,
And–hey–where are you going?