(Closed) Reading these posts reminds me of my own situation…scared now…

posted 6 years ago in Relationships
Post # 3
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Bee Keeper
  • Wedding: August 1900

Do you trust him now?  Have you forgiven him?  I mean truly forgiven him.  You can’t enter this marriage and expect it to work out if you always hold his past over his head and use it as ammunition in every fight.

 ETA: Personally, I don’t think I’d be able to trust again after all that. 

Post # 4
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Buzzing bee
  • Wedding: April 2011

I agree, I’d never be able to trust him again…and wouldn’t want to marry him. Do you WANT to marry him? Do you really trust him?

Post # 5
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Bumble bee
  • Wedding: May 2014

I truly believe only YOU can answer that.  Obviously, in staying with him, there are ‘risks’ involved.  There is a ‘past’ with him, of which you would need to forgive him for, because as PP stated, trust is everything in a relationship.  I think if you have trust, are communicating about what happened in the past, and are happy in your relationship now, then it is a good place to be.  There is no equation for any of this. People make mistakes.  Some learn from them, grow up, and become better people.  While others will not.  In the end, you need to protect you and your son, and be happy (if that is with him now, so be it!)

Post # 6
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Bumble bee

Yikes. It’s hard for any person that doesn’t know you to try and judge your relationship. Every man is different and every relationship is different. I think you should’ve left and STAYED gone at the first instant of suspect behavior, lying, cheating, etc. The fact you have a son could have been the answer you needed in order to have him grow up and stop cheating. MY PERSONAL…personal experience. Every man I know that was a “cheater” never stops. I pray that in your case you can mend your relationship and move forward. It’s so soo hard for you to mentally be in that blissful stage where you know without a doubt that everything is fine, because you’re always going to have that teeeensy tiny voice in the back of your head wondering if everything is normal. The fact that you said you still check his accounts and he seeeems to be doing good shows you don’t trust him, and for good reason!! I don’t know what the point of my post is, other than to say I totally empathize and understand where you’re coming from. I hope everything works out for you guys and he treats you like a queen!!! 🙂

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