(Closed) ready for it to happen already!

posted 6 years ago in 20 Something
Post # 3
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

You asked if you were being silly, and I have to say, yes…you are. You have so much time. Why are you rushing him into a proposal the way that you want it? The guy usually gets one time to shine, and that’s during the proposal. 

Have you guys discussed getting married? If so, sit back and let him do his thing. Don’t regret the way he proposed to you b/c you were pressuring him too much. I like to tell the story of a friend of mine who kept whining to her SO to propose. They were lying in bed on vacation one day, and she was whining about wanting a baby. He had gotten so fed up with it, that he got up, rummaged through his bag, and threw a ring box at her. He said, “Well, if you want a baby, we’ll probably want to be married first.” and walked out of the room. She was so embarrased…that’s her proposal story. 

Give him a little credit. He wants to make this special for the both of you. You say you know you want to spend the rest of your life together, so enjoy this time right now. Enjoy your relationship and stop focusing on exactly when and how he’s going to propose. Leave that up to him.

Post # 4
Member
2725 posts
Sugar bee
  • Wedding: November 2011

I suggest reading the book 20 Something, 20 Everything.

Post # 5
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

Picking out a ring and proposing are a really big deal to a guy. I’d let him do it the way he’s dreaming of. Have you guys talked about a timeline at all?

We got engaged at 21 but had a two-year engagement so we could figure out a few life things first. It worked out really well for us, and I’d do it all over again in a heartbeat given the chance. 🙂

Post # 7
Hostess
16213 posts
Honey Beekeeper

So it sounds like a proposal is likely on the way soon? Yay!

The 20/21 age is hard because everyone is getting engaged, but I promise you that as soon as it happens for you, it won’t matter at all how long you had to wait.

Post # 8
Member
5977 posts
Bee Keeper

Tell your friends to mind their own business! Haha…seriously! Just let them know that you’re young and have the rest of your lives to be married. That you want your SO to have a moment where he shines! It sounds like you guys both talked about what you want and you are on the same timeline. So sit back, enjoy your relationship and you’ll be engaged before you know it.

Post # 10
Member
140 posts
Blushing bee
  • Wedding: November 2014

I was sad when my sister got engaged before me, we have been together almost 6 years, them a year and a half. My boyfriend told me how we are different, we are special and when we get engaged its going to be more special then anything and I should not care that my sister got engaged before me because we are not them. (there engagment wasnt even a proposal, and no ring) I totally use to get upset about not being engaged but now I am so excited to see what he comes up with. Just enjoy your time together, atleast you know you don’t have to wait long. Try to forget about it so you can be surprised. in that moment it wont matter what the ring looks like you will just be so happy he loves you and wants to marry you. If he knows you well he will pick something you like. 

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