Post # 1
…a link to another venue!
Background: I have researched for a few weeks and visited six places we both liked. I have been telling FI that, after seeing the sixth and final venue, I don’t want to see anything else and will be ready to make our choice. Our top three venues are wonderful and I’m ready (mentally, emotionally) to make the final decision. So as I’m pouring over numbers, he sends me a link to a totally new venue! Ack! How frustrating! :-p
Did you reach a point where you were “ready” to decide your venue? Can anyone relate?
Post # 3
We walked into our venue and just knew that was where we were going to get married. It was just a feeling.
Good luck finding your venue!
Post # 4
The one we chose was one we thought we wouldn’t want, so it was our last choice. We saw 3 others first, but the last one was it!
I think it’s sweet he’s sending you links, take it for what it is, he’s trying to help! Good luck with your search! 🙂
Post # 5
Atleast hes helping. I was ready to choose when FI decided waterfront wasnt good enough and that he wanted oceanfront cliff. We didnt get to visit any of our venues which made it much much harder.
Post # 6
I was like you! I had about 15 venues, then I made a spreadsheet with the pricing and everything. I narrowed it down to 10 venues. Then I visited all of them. I then picked out my top 6. (Some were easy to get rid of because either they were ugly or expensive or far). Then I put together a power point presentation, and showed it to our familys. It was funny, because they didn’t really care where we had it, and just wanted us to be happy, but it was nice to put it together because it sorted my own ideas about the places. Then we narrowed it down to 2, and then picked 1!
I would say, look at the website of the hall your fiance found (maybe it is great!) Look at some reviews of it online, and then compare it to your top 3. After you decide to keep it in the running or not, tell your fiance that you are pulling the plug, and then give him a deadline of when you have to decide. And then give him a deadline of when you want to sign the contract. That’s what I did, and I made him pinky promise. 🙂 I’m crazy impatient, and he hates being rushed, so setting deadlines made me feel better and allowed him some time.
Good luck!!! Finding the right venue is so difficult!
Post # 7
I researched one venue. We visited it, and we knew that was the one. We booked it the next day. Never researched anything else, or price compared, or visited anywhere. It’s like choosing a fiance. Once you have the right one, you don’t need to see all the others!
You gotta tell your fiance it’s time to stop looking… I don’t know about where you live, but if you were in my city and you wanted to get married in June 2013, well, you would need to book a place ASAP!!! You’re not gonna have your first choice, or even your third choice, if you keep exploring more options.
Post # 8
Thanks for the replies! It’s nice to know I’m not alone.
FI knows I am done looking, but I think he forwarded the link after talking to his mom (his mom’s a story for another day….) The difficulty is that I am moving in 2 weeks to be with him (he took a job out east 4 months ago). My goal is to get the venue squared away before I leave, which means limiting how complex the process gets. Thankfully, I cannot ask for a more supportive other half during this process (he even skyped for most of the tours and he put together a fantastic spreadsheet and info board on googledocs…love him!)
I love hearing that so many of you had that feeling that your venue was “the one.” What made you feel that way? Did you know right away or did it take some time and thought to realize it was the right choice?
Post # 9
@Papillon23: I think sometimes it’s one of those things that when you know, you know. Mr. Cajun & I had a list, we narrowed it down to the top picks to visit, and while I was ‘ok’ with a few of them once I saw them, none of them really struck me as being ‘it.’ The venue we finally booked with was the very last one we visted, and only because I’d picked it on a whim from an ad…literally opened the bridal catalogue to a random page and there it was; when we stepped inside the first time, I knew that was the one. I hesitated at first because it was more expensive than the ‘just ok’ venue, but I knew I wouldn’t really be happy with anything else. And in the end we were able to negotiate some discounts, so it all worked out.
Post # 10
I had a really hard time deciding between my 3 favorites.
The first was beautiful beyond words.(But super expensive)
The second was in a great location, and I loved the coordinator. (And looked very corporate inside, not at all like a wedding venue)
The third (the one we chose) was beautiful, had great food, and was better priced then the other two.
I didn’t get a “this is the one” feeling, but more of a this will do! It’s not anything like chosing a wedding dress, because price DOES matter!!! Chose what is beautiful, goes with your theme, good pricing, good reviews, and try the food!!