Post # 1
There is a prevalent overtone of unsupportiveness on the 20-something board, so I decided to change it up a little!
My man and I have been together 4+ years. We both have post-secondary degrees, and I’m currently working toward a second degree on a part-time basis. We have well-paying, full-time jobs, and have been fully financially independant for several years now. We’ve also been living together in perfect harmoney for the past 2 years. So while we may be in our 20s, we are definitely ready to get married. The only comments I got when people heard the news was “FINALLY!” and if anybody were unsupportive, it wouldn’t affect us, because really – who needs that, especially when they’re wrong?
So let’s hear it from the ladies who are young in age, but fully independant adults, getting married because it’s the next logical step in life!
Post # 3
@Lysistrata: Hey, there’s nothing wrong with getting married young. Many of the ppl who are against it know that ppl who marry young are more likely to divorce. This is true primarily because most of them aren’t truly committed and aren’t educated about the true work involved in relationships. Anybody who doesn’t understand these things is in for a life a disappointment whether they are 22 or 52. As long as you are over 21 and open to marriage education (pre-marital counseling); you’ll be preparing yourself for a strong marriage. It’s great that you’ve both already got bachelor’s degrees too. I totally understand the lack of support but it comes from a lack of awareness and a general concern for the health of your future marriage.
Post # 4
@Darling23:I’m sorry to hear you feel that way. Sometimes people like to tell others about things that happened in their life and how much they changed throughout their 20’s. I know its frustrating, keep your head up and best wishs with your Fiance.
Post # 5
Age is just a number. I know people who are older than I am (I’m 22) who are absolutely immature and not focused on life whatsoever. I am responsible and with a responsible man (he’s 27). My mother (love her to death, but…) is 42 years old and has the mentality of a teenager. I swear the two of us reversed roles in life. I am the mother and she’s the daughter. I don’t think she can hold a relationship because of how she acts. So, forget about the negativity and prove the nay-sayers wrong.
Post # 6
@Darling23: I have to disagree that you need to be over 21 to have a successful marriage. I have seen many marriages flourish that started when they were only 18, 19 years old. I know people who just celebrated their thirty year marriage. He was 18 and she was 17 when they got married. My Fiance parents celebrated their 25th last august- they were both 19. My parents were married young, my uncle and his wife got married at 18, his cousin and her husband got married at 18. All of these marriages are great marriages. Age is after all just a number. I will be 18 years old on my wedding day. Yes I am young, but we are taking marriage classes, we are finding a place to live, working, going to school for elementary education and accounting, and we are going to make it work. Is it harder, yes. But we have been together for almost 4 years now, and I know without a doubt that he is the one that I want to spend forever with.
Post # 7
My husband and I were engaged in college and married right afterward. I really don’t care if people think that we are “too young” or something because it’s not their life it’s mine.
I have been living on my own since I graduated high school, we bought a house 3 years ago, and we are both working on a masters degree and have good jobs.
Just ignore the nay-sayers, they don’t know you or your life!