- 8 years ago
- Wedding: April 2011
So I’m getting married this April. Very joyous. I’m over the moon excited, as is my lovely Fiance. My mother is the very picture of a supportive, loving mother of the bride. You see, I come from a very….animated family. Every year on my birthday my parents call me first thing in the morning and sing happy birthday to me. I’m 32 years old, by the way. Doesn’t stop them, though. There are no shortages of hugs and kisses when we see each other and we email constantly. If we lived closer to each other we’d be over at each other’s houses constantly.
My lovely FI’s family is quite different. As animated as we are, they are that same level of….restrained (on some days, I’m tempted to use “drugged” and “restrained” interchangably.) His family wasn’t close at all when he was growing up. Things have gotten better over the past few years, but they still don’t really show emotion with one another. Even though they live only about 15 minutes from us, my Fiance only sees them when he drives down there to visit. They very seldom call, much less email. I’d say about 80% of their relationship is due to his efforts. There’s no extended family to speak of. Basically, think Ian Miller’s family in My Big Greek Wedding. That’s them in a nutshell. Hell, they don’t even call or email one another on birthdays. That’s sacrilege in my family!
When my Fiance first bought my ring he was so excited he drove to their house to show them. His mother simply smiled sweetly and his dad said congratulations. No questions as to how or when or where, no questions at all, really. It’s important to note that I get along fine with his family. As far as I know, they really like me, so their general lack of interest isn’t due to any sort of dissaproval or anything like that.
Their level of interest hasn’t gotten any higher since we’ve gotten engaged. I haven’t spoken to them at all. They haven’t called, emailed, sent a card, nothing. Did I mention they live a mere 15 minutes away? The only reason they even know the date is because I sent them an STD (which they haven’t acknowledged in any way shape or form.) My Fiance asked them for a list of people they’d like to invite and they told him “no one really.” That was it. He brought over our engagement pics to show them one day and they simply commented “lovely.” No real interest was shown at all. I’m tempted to show up at their house one day with a pair of defibrillator paddles, just in case.
I’m really trying not to get too worked up about this. Their family is simply different from mine. But my poor, lovely Fiance is so so excited about this wedding and it KILLS me that they can’t be bothered to show the slightest bit of interest whatsoever. The protective part of me wants to call them and scream “what the hell is the matter with you people??!!! Your oldest son is getting married! Can you show the slightest bit of interest and/or excitement for him??!”
It hurts my feelings and makes me absolutely crazy on his behalf that they’re acting this way. He tries so hard with them and they give him nothing. Nothing! I’m toying with the idea of not even sending them an invitation and seeing how long it takes before they ask when it is. It’s really that bad. I know it’s not my place and I’m not going to say anything but it’s still making me crazy.
That is all. 🙂